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A serious subject dealt with in a humorous manner
3 October 2015
The male mid-life crisis perhaps does not et as much attention as the female menopause, but for some men it is a real watershed in their lives, and I think I fall into that category. It's that time in life when you realise that you are no longer young fit and desirable, bits of your body ache and work, which seems so important to you, and almost defined you as a person, seems now to be a mistake. There is also this awareness that time is running out. As an insightful person somewhere once said; time steals everything away. We all know this is true but when you are young it's easy keep it at arms length. The problem starts when you can no longer keep it at arms length and the realisation presses in on you. I first read an extract of this book somewhere on the internet and it made me laugh with recognition; I knew that here was a man who understood something of what I was going through and I had to read the book. The book is full of the author's self-depreciating humour, which is helps to lighten the mood, but for all that, he deals seriously with this troubling state. Basically he says you have reached a water-shed in your life when those things that served to give purpose to your life and place in society, e.g. work, being fit and sexually attractive are passing and were wrong measures of worth anyway. He says a spiritual re-evaluation/recalibration is required. You need to see that you are important for who you are and not what you do. For him as well as for me that involves God in Jesus Christ; a deepening trust in God and not holding onto that which is fleeting, although I had no idea at first that this was where the author was heading. However the answer he offers is what I've always known, but just not in such an immediate sense. The book says my present inner dislocation is an opportunity to move closer to Jesus and for me that makes perfect sense. However this book begs a question: If it leads some to consider their need of God in Jesus, then that is great, but what is there in this book for those who experience this spiritual mid-life crisis but persist in denying God? This is not a criticism of the author at all but about the nature of the thing. What is left to such a person? Perhaps like Bertrand Russell he can say: only on the firm foundation of unyielding despair can the soul’s habitation be safely built. The problem is that habitation is in decline and there is no where to go.