This is an excellent book. I wish I had read it 30 years ago - I would have recognised all the warning signs and saved myself a lot of heartache. It is written by a man who is a therapist for abusive men but directed at the women/partners in their lives. You may think a book like that could be dangerous as it may make women think all men are the same. On the contrary, it opens your eyes and you see the various men in your life in a different light - but only through talking to their partners. Men I would never have thought could be abusive are, and those you might think could be, are not. You might think it would turn you against all men, or that most men are abusers of one kind or another. Again, wrong! In reality through this book, you begin to realise that only a small minority of men are actually abusers although a few more may have the potential to be abusers if allowed. The key is knowing how to deal with them. How to react and interact with them. A potentially abusive man can only become abusive if you let him. With the knowledge this book gives you, you can learn to be strong and independent and how to stand up for yourself and not allow the abuse to start/continue. I think every woman should read this book whether they are in a relationship, about to begin one or haven't had their first kiss yet! Forearmed is forewarned which can save a lot of unnecessary suffering. Good luck!