Sally Magnusson has used the story of her Mother's dementia and the challenges and effects placed on her family to not just describe how they coped with the situation. Dementia turns your approach to life round. You become suddenly horrible to the people who are doing their best to help you and also close relatives who are still able to live their lives normally. Sally’s Mum Mamie was a woman of words too and never lost her ability to use them, also to play the mouth organ. There is humour in that troubled mind too, even if the realizing of it reduces the family to quiet tears. This book not only movingly records what happened but will encourage others and , most importantly, it researches how society copes with dementia…. and it's not very good...a very moving description of how despite the manicured lawns and flower beds surrounding a 'care ' home an elderly man was first ignored when he asked for toilet help and then ridiculed when in sheer tearful desperation he soiled himself. ..this reduced us to tears too. The style of the book in which Sally talks throughout to her Mum is clever and adds piquancy to the story. Her broadcaster training means she writes in a style which is easily read aloud and stops the book becoming boring reportage. We all pray that we never are faced with the dreadful dementia but though this book also pray that we have someone of Sally and her sisters determination and courage near us. YOU MUST READ THIS BOOK. You may learn how to understand or positively help someone with dementia but also perhaps change society's distressingly and lacking approach to it.