On one level, Renée Davis's self help book is down to earth, full of practical advice, clearly set out and presents the road to recovery from emotional damage in manageable steps. It is also an inspirational story. I've come across damaged families in my life, and the temptation is to think that the cycle spiralling further and further into destructive behaviour is inevitable. Renée describes her early life was of terrible insecurity and abuse, which led to her leaving a violent home aged just 15, with no qualifications. Yet with little outside help, and through her own determination, Renée "broke the cycle". Here, she reflects on the steps that helped her to do this. Reading this made me change the way I thought about the capacity of the human spirit to heal itself.