This is a gentle, loving book. Patricia Commins pulled me through this process without judgement or bias, using compassion and support instead. I did some of the exercises and found them useful, especially putting my mother in the context of the years in which she grew up and was a young adult. The book helped me take what I admire about my mother and leave the rest. I think any reader could find themselves in this book, including and especially women whose mothers are still alive. The book is really for and about the reader. I found it a wise, wonderful read.