The central idea of "The Velvet Rage" is great. As gay guys, we grew up believing there was something 'wrong' and 'different' about ourselves - a terrible secret we had to hide from the world. The book argues that our adult emotional problems stem from our childhood experiences of feeling ashamed and an outsider.
This book does contain a lot of good ideas, and strategies to live a happier life as a gay man. Unfortunately it's also quite badly written. It's so repetitious and unstructured I honestly thought my Kindle had broken and was repeating paragraphs, or had the chapters out of order.
Also try and get your head around some of the American psychobabble. I literally picked a page at random (Kindle location 2043, if you want to check) and found the bewildering statement "Passion is a complex and multifaceted code which is implanted in each of us". Hmmm. The same page talks about the "three-legged stool of contentment", and skipping to location 2044, there's the classic assertion that "passion is a meta-emotion". Of course.
If you can cope with the mangled English, though, there are some diamonds in the rough.