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Intelligent insightful review of the REAL harms inflicted,
By A Customer
This review is from: After Silence: Rape and my Journey Back (Paperback)
For anyone who has been the victim of a sexual assault or anyone who knows someone who has been a victim.
Also very good for women who do not want to become a victim. Not that it offers a failsafe way of avoiding problems, but it brings the reality of unpredicatiblty and today's dangers into light. It makes you realise how many times we are off guard, or leave ourselves vulnerable.
I have read Paul Britton, and I like his books for the same reason. They show the true nature of violent crime and the places where it can occur.
I would not have thought of the situation that the author finds herself in as being a dangerous one, untill I read her book.
Her attacker gained access to her house by the back door as she had just gone out to put rubbish out . Her back door was only open for a moment. He had probably been monitoring her property for a while.
I think all women should be aware of these types of crime, not to encite fearmongering, but just to be realistic about the types of sexual crimes that are happening nowadays.
In fact I would go as far as to say that especially women who have not been assaulted should read this book, because they are the people most likely to have a false sense of security, and are therefore the people most in need of education of dangers.
This kind of assualt may not be the most common, but it still offers a very educated view into the real problem underlying the results of a physical assault. The damage to the mind, the trust, the sense of security, and so on. She details the grieving process for the pre rape person. It brilliantly charts the mental and emotional landscape.
Even if you have no interest in assault, you will find this book beautifully written and a very compelling read.
She spent a great deal of money on therapy, and explains some fantastic 'illuminations' about what she has learned about her experience later in the book. So you are getting expert insight into the problem second hand so to speak.
I could say almost exactly the same review about the book : Telling by Patricia Weaver Francisco. Another excellent book.
I wish all women were aware of what risks they face in terms of sexual assault, both in terms of the assault itself and the effect it may have on them later.