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This book is a real lifeline!,
This review is from: How Can I Ever Trust You Again?: Infidelity: From Discovery to Recovery in Seven Steps (Paperback)
As someone who was recently devastated to discover a partner's infidelity, I cannot recommend this book highly enough. Written mainly to give support and guidance to the "Discoverer" of both an "inappropriate relationship" or a full-blown affair, " How can I ever trust you again?" is a fantastically practical and supportive piece of work. Mr. Marshall not only shows great empathy for the torment suffered by the person who has been let down but also helps to provide an understanding of the underlying problems behind the affair and a strategy for moving forward from it. The book is full of useful tips for more effective communication so that the reader learns the tools essential for becoming a stronger individual who is able to articulate his or her feelings and needs in a less emotionally charged way. For someone who is in constant turmoil, the knowledge that there is a ladder of progression to recovery (with only seven and not seventeen steps thank goodness!) affords a very welcome sense of calm.
What I really liked too were the short equally compassionate sections in each chapter written to help the "Discovered". Whilst unwilling to read other books on the subject because of a feeling of being judged, my partner was prepared to read and discuss these summaries together.
If you have sadly found yourself in this position,this book will provide a real lifeline of hope and is money very well spent. Do please buy it.