It is easy to get a bit carried away when writing a review but I cannot speak highly enough of this book. It is a lifesaver and I am not exaggerating when I say that. Lundy Bancroft knows what he is talking about and there really isn't much he doesn't cover in this book. It is empowering to learn that you are not the only one going through this kind of abuse. Hearing the accusations and insults in the mouths of other men in the book makes it clear to the victim that it is not your fault this is happening to you. It takes the power out of the words and insults and shows them for what they are, abusive tactics used to control an intimate partner. Lundy speaks in plain terms and leaves no room for the abuser, or the victim, to hide. You might not like some of what he has to say - for example, trying harder to please/placate your guy will probably make him MORE abusive, not less so - but you will listen to what Lundy has to say because he will have demonstrated already that his advice is valid, important and often life saving. I did not face physical abuse so my comment only relates to my circumstances (anyone who is at risk of physical harm needs to reach out IMMEDIATELY to a domestic violence organisation for support and help on how to stay safe) but I cannot recommend this book highly enough.