Sorry to hear about your ex husband - and about the not-so-good-experience with your therapists... You used 'plural' so I assume you had 'a few'. I studied Counselling (level 2) and the majority of them are so called 'humanistic' -which is the backdrop to all types of counselling.
Unfortunately they believe that 'people are OK' and this mainstream approach denies pathology such as depression or personality disorders. Unless you have a psycho-dynamic (Freud) or a cognitive behavioural therapist -someone who is more knowledgeable, intellectual and pragmatic - you will have this attitude with the majority of therapists. I would also like to mention that the profession 'therapist' or 'counselling' is not a protected term such as psychologist - no formal qualification is needed to become one. Keep on reading if it helps -there are so many great books such as 'Getting Past Your Past' (S. Elliott) or 'Who Is Pulling Your Strings' (H. Braiker)