Molly. I read your comments with interest. Yes Mr Green is no teenager and it may seem outmoded even to me as a 56yr old mum with a 10 year old. However, I still find most women are aghast that my husband cooks (in fact all family meals) despite working....and these comments from come from the majority of other mums.... and all of them much younger than me.
As for controlled crying. I agree at first sight, it seemed counter intuitive....but it has become the golden standard to put a stop to endlessly crying babies who wont settle. Tiredness leaves the child even more fractious, the parents in pieces and often so tired they can't work, think or get on together. An exhausted parent also gets ill more easily. Dr Green doesn't advise leaving the baby to cry endlessly. He recommends regular, timed visits to soothe and reassure but NOT to pick-up or engage. I put it off and put it off thinking it would take weeks. I could never see a clear 3 weeks when I could work it through. Then a neighbour laughed at me and said " weeks? it takes a few days". Filled with doubt, I gave it a go, following the advice to time according to my ability to listen to the crying, and to move on from there. It took 2 nights! 5 recalls the frist night, 2 the second, the third was quiet. Baby was happier for sleeping and so were we.
Babies, like anyone else need structure and order to feel secure. Letting them entirely run your life is setting yourself up for some difficult times and confusing to children who require routine and boundaries to feel secure. They are never too young to learn as long as it is done the right way.