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If you've stumbled across this book, you probably need to read it. And read it now...
24 June 2018
There's a lot of positive reviews for this book and I doubt my heaping on even more superlatives would really add anything.
But I did want to leave review, because this book is a revelation: It's surprising how, after reading it, suddenly its "thesis" is so bleeding obvious! That internalised "shame" damages young gay people, profoundly. And it really does explain an awful lot of behaviours one sees in "gay life".
Being over forty now, I've turned my back on dating, gay life, the gay community. I did so thinking everyone else is happy and I don't fit in... because I'm flawed.
Despite having plenty of evidence that other gay people aren't permanently happy and well adjusted, I still thought that I was the problem (not "white" enough, not "fit" enough, not "young" enough). I've been lucky enough to avoid some of the destructive behaviours this book describes, but I do have the same destructive thoughts. And and overwhelming sense of emptiness. If any of that sounds even vaguely familiar, please do read this book. If only because I suspect it will help you make sense of your life a little better.
I read this over one weekend, so in no time at all. And it really was worth the time :)