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Don't um and Ahhh, Buy this book now!
on 24 September 2014
I hope you're reading this Sally because I want so much to give you a big hug and a huge thankyou. Of all the books on adoptive parenting and attachment I have read, not to mention all the patronising and pointless training courses I have yawned and fake smiled my way through... (and there have been a lot), your book has been by far the most help of all of them. Mostly, just because it's so nice to understand that someone else has had a family life exactly like ours and you don't mince around with saying how you are really feeling.
We have adopted three boys, the two oldest are birth siblings who were removed from the birth family due to neglect. As foster carers we supported them through a previous adoption which failed and then when they came back to us, we decided to adopt them. Whilst they were in their previous adoptive placement, we fostered a prem baby who we also later adopted. Every day is beyond challenging and every day I wonder how I can survive until the next day but somehow I do and you book has helped me with that. Thank you.
If you are reading this but you are not Sally and you are an adoptive parent, or especially, if you're a prospective adoptive parent doing a home study or waiting for your children, a social worker or other proffesional, you need to buy this book and read it now! You should come away with a clear understanding of the challenges that adoptive parents and their children face. This book tells it exactly as it really is.
If you do read this book and afterwards you are still one of those people who says things like....
"He should be fine by now"
"He just needs some good old fashioned discipline"
"Where is his real Mother, didn't she want him?"
"Just love the children more"
Then please form an orderly queue and wait in line until it is your turn to be slapped. You can give your copy of the book to someone who will benefit from it.