Top positive review
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Insightful and loveable
on 25 November 2017
I really like Matthew and his approach to relationships and dating, as he encourages being warm and loving. That's a huge plus. Lot of tips are commonsensical, yes, but at least they do not involve game-playing (which I loathe).
Matthew says "no" to a lot of modern dating nonsense like: "He should call you first", "You should wait x days before responding", etc. Ugh. As someone who studies human dynamics and psychology of relationships, I agree 100% with him! If you want to experience love, you have to be loving and sometimes risk being vulnerable. It's impossible to love and play games at the same time.
I've read so many books which place a woman on the pedestal. It is wrong, the same way as placing a guy on the pedestal. If you catch yourself thinking: "If he doesn't (do) x, then he is a moron and I'm moving on!", then consider imagining someone saying these words in your face and think what your reaction would be. Changes perspective, doesn't it? The ideal approach in human relationships is not to look up to anybody, and not to look down on anybody - Matthew nails it. He advocates reciprocating and investing back in people who have shown their worth; he also says not to be afraid of making first move; he laughs at passive aggressive behaviours and instead promotes self-love and growing as a person.
He is - and most likely will remain - one of my favourite coaches, because he treats human beings with respect, and not like pawns on the board. This is, most probably, reason number one why you should give his book a go. I'd definitely recommend it!