Top critical review
All parents are bad and children are entitled disrespectful tyrants.
on 25 September 2017
1 star because it started off well. Children are suffering because of the fast pace the world has taken which biology hasn't caught up with. There are many factors: Technology, Lack of free play - particularly outdoor play, Parents working long hours, Poverty, Medication, Diet, early school start, constant school testing...
And 1 star because she regularly points out that research has repeatedly shown authoritative parenting (Gentle Parenting. All behaviour is communication. Its not personal and requires warmth and respect. Desired behaviour should be modeled rather than demanded - See The Gentle Parenting book by Sarah Ockwell) is a far better method than Authoritarian (See Supernanny, Gina Ford:. Behavioral control such as Practices of hitting, Isolation and withdrawal techniques, Extreme routing and rigid rules etc) but she clearly leans to the authoritarian as seen in her rose tinted view of the old days of discipline and blind respect.
However, her contempt for children and parents soon shone trough. Parents are bad and children are entitled brats.
Working parents do their children no favours by working and should decide between work and children. They should be spending more time with their kids instead of leaving them to be raised by nanny's and if you dont think you can give all of your time to your child, you have no business having any.
Poor parents are disgusting, uneducated, peasants who beat up teachers if their kids get told off, then ignore their kids in favour of the phone. . Because children are always wrong and authority figures are always right schools should not ever be questioned about incidents.
People who have evolved past the control of the current punitive school system are entitled troublesome anarchists who have been brainwashed over their entire life by marketeers subliminal messages.
Neither of these parents truly "Parent" their children often leaving them to the mercy of the TV unsupervised (Particularly in the bedroom till early hours) or pacifying them with a device instead of putting in the effort to actually raise and discipline them.
Despite her criticism of the early school start and excessive testing, She makes no mention of home education at all or alternative education. I think given the fact that she thinks schools are no place for equality and can only function if they do not evolve and maintain control and hierarchy, she would have done well to talk at least a little about the long term benefits from Sudbury schools where equality is key, spaces are shared and respected and mixed age groups are the norm; and perhaps even a little on the long term benefits of unschooling, Steiner, Montessori etc... Where behaviour is modeled and children are people who are equal to the adult in the room.
The overall tone of this book in its entirity was horrible. Had i read only the opening chapters and the conclusion I might have given this book 4 stars but getting into the book, I find her to be very subjective, accusing and prone to making sweeping generalisations.
The entire book seems to be based on a moody tween she looked at once, that she then goes on to speculate what horrible, uncaring (Or Too loving), permissive parents she must have. This is a child she saw only from a distance, never saw her parents let alone had a conversation with any of them and yet she has their entire back story..
I would recommend this only to people that I think aren't capable of evolving just to side slip them the sliver of information on authoritative parenting and the harm of presents over presence just to sow the seed but this book could easily be cherry picked t pull out the absolute worst in it