Top positive review
Wonderful, quite wonderful..
3 July 2017
I grew up in a former British colony, where boarding school is still standard practice for those families that can afford it. My parents had been through the same experience themselves; it was considered a huge privilege in their day, and they had our best interests at heart.
As Mark Stibbe makes abundantly clear, a few children actually thrive on this experience. Being of a very sensitive disposition, I did not. One does not even have to be abused or bullied at school (thankfully I was not); being torn away from one's loving family in the formative years of childhood is enough to scar some for life.
This book explains very comprehensively a lot of functional difficulties I have had over the years, without understanding why; my unusually solitary nature, avoidance of intimate relationships, recurrent depression, and low emotional resilience, all of which are most unusual in my (West African) culture.
Now a 50-something professional female, I have only recently ceased to dream about the dormitories of my secondary school. Each 'nightmare' was infused with a fearful sense of isolation and inability to escape, despite featuring only mundane activities.
It is a huge relief to know that there is an explanation for these problems, that my personal reaction is not an over-reaction, and most of all, that there is a solution I can totally relate to as a Christian.
Many thanks to God for the healing love of Christ, the Writer of happy endings, and many thanks to Mark Stibbe. I have attended an event at which he spoke on the Father's love, and he is as sound a speaker as he is a writer.
I have recommended this book very strongly to all my siblings; some may need it more than others!