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4.9 out of 5 stars
4.9 out of 5 stars

on 5 July 2017
This easy to read short book is packed with so much wisdom and good biblical teaching on the nature of friendship.
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on 3 May 2017
Such a good book. Would thoroughly recommend- it's relatively short so quick to read, but don't underestimate the importance of what he has to say!
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on 20 May 2014
Like Vaughan’s other books, True Friendship is insightful, punchy, clear, and biblical. He writes as a Pastor to ordinary people (Vaughan serves as Minister of St Ebbe's Church in Oxford and President of the Proclamation Trust), and it’s hard to imagine anyone struggling to understand what he’s saying. If you can read English, you can read True Friendship.

And yet behind this easy style lies a remarkable depth of theological and pastoral reflection. Vaughan has clearly read widely and deeply on the subject of friendship, and brings us insights from (among others) the 12th-century English monk Aelred of Rievaulx, the 19th-century theologian Hugh Black, and the 20th-century Catholic Priest Henri Nouwen, along with more familiar names such as C. S. Lewis and Francis Schaeffer. Vaughan encourages his readers to take time chewing over what he says, and each chapter ends with questions for reflection, making the book ideal for group discussion.

There’s certainly plenty to discuss. For though True Friendship is short (less than 100 pages), each chapter is terse and thought-provoking, and the book as a whole covers a remarkable range of biblical, theological, and pastoral material. The first chapter sets the scene: friendship is a reflection of the gospel itself, the message that lies at the heart of the Scriptures and reveals the relational character of God himself as Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Friendship is therefore crucial for all of us, for in cultivating friendships we come to reflect more closely the image of God.

The following five chapters reflect on friendship from several other angles: true friendship is close, constant, candid, careful, and Christ-centred. A few highlights will give a flavour of the book’s many strengths.

Vaughan attacks the caricatured social expectation than men should “not cry ... not display weakness ... [and] not need affection or gentleness or warmth.” On the contrary, he insists, “Unless men are able to resist this unhelpful understanding of masculinity and be vulnerable with each other, they will always have companions, but not friends” (pp. 23-24).

Of course, while it’s a tremendous blessing to have deeper friendships, developing them requires both commitment and sensitivity. “The danger of cliquey exclusivity” means that coffee-time after church may be “not the ideal time for intense conversations that only include a few” (pp. 36-37). And it’s a mistake simply to become jealous of others whose relationships seem more authentic than ours. Instead, says Vaughan, “The way to have good friends is to be a good friend. Instead of lamenting that no one invites us for a meal, that our church is so unfriendly and that everyone relates at such a superficial level, let us take the initiative to open our homes and lives and see what happens” (p. 40).

Another way to cultivate sincere, intimate friendships is to be candid with one another. “That will involve sharing our hopes, fear and passions, as well as our darkest secrets or greatest temptations” (p. 47). In a characteristic display of honesty, Vaughan recalls, “I have found time and again that as I have taken the risk of being open with trusted friends, far from recoiling from me in horror, they have responded by revealing some of their own struggles, and our friendship has deepened” (p. 48).
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on 11 January 2014
This is a great read and well worth giving time and prayer as you go through. The fact that it sets friendship in the context of the gospel storyline God is working out in the world, with Jesus the Friend of Sinners right at its heart, was particularly wonderful. I found myself thinking with warmth and thankfulness of close friends God has brought into my life; but it was also really hard to avoid the challenge the book helpfully brings, especially in the areas of being honest in friendship and inviting criticism and challenge. Read it, but prepare to be praying and recognising the need for change as you do!
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on 12 January 2015
This is a much needed short book on what it means to be a good friend. With clarity and Christ-centredness, Vaughan Roberts shows why we need good fiends, what good and healthy friendships are, and ultimately how Christ makes that all possible.
It takes about 90 minutes to read, but will effect your life for a lot longer.
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on 27 September 2016
Great little book to encourage you to think about your friendships and your friendship with God. Read it to MOT your friendships.
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on 10 November 2016
Great book which we are studying at the moment. Very easy to read!
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