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Really helpful for the post depressive with social anxiety/personality loss
on 8 February 2012
This book is so helpful. I read it in about a week or so and really cracked on with the exercises, the reanalysis of my thoughts consistently slowly showed me how wrong my thought patterns were. I had some great breakthrough moments where I sat there laughing about how ridiculous my thoughts were. My anxiety lessened through doing these exercises, in conjunction I started writing a list of my positive qualities and seeking evidence for them in social interactions, which really helped my self esteem. I also realized that my inhibition and self-monitoring which was killing me, was so easy to overcome, you simply SAY whatever is in your head.
You have to do these exercises. They can feel hard to work through, I found them hard work especially when starting out, but the effort worked, it meant I was fixing things. This does involve exposing yourself, which was a little hard but it got much much easier by working on my thought patterns. Also the more I put myself out there (which this book enables you to do) the less I felt anxious, now I feel confident, so it does involve confronting your fear but the thought exercises enable you to deal with that until your anxiety has died away considerably, if not totally.
So many years I have spent thinking I am boring, soulless, a shell, with no spark, no zest no character. I have been inhibited, afraid to be myself. Anxious to talk to people, shied away from life. This has been the first thing in 3 years that has helped me get over that, to be more myself again, after having severe depression. It's taken away so much fear, so much insecurity and it did so in about a month. I still have some issues with low level depression, which I have realized, but this has helped me so greatly! I no longer analyse myself with a very critical inner voice, I no longer feel awful about myself. I wish I had the patience to sit here and write a more eloquent review and to fully communicate the extent to which this has helped me, but i'll just say this;
In the past three years I have felt full of fear of rejection and I have felt so unlovable and devoid of character. Now I actually feel confident, I don't depend on people's love or acceptance, I don't feel anxious at all interacting with other people & I feel like I am getting some of my old spark and character back and that is amazing.
This book revived me.