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Useful in parts but does not represent the average mother
on 6 September 2013
I bought this book as I am about to return to work after a years maternity leave and feel guilty and stressed about leaving my child in nursery.
There is some useful guidance on deciding whether to return to your old job, or look for a new one, and how to negotiate part-time working if this is what you want. Also how the whole family can pull together to make it work.
The book is also full of quotes from real mothers discussing how they felt about returning to work, and this is where I feel the book really lets itself down. It is very biased towards the high-flying career driven woman, and not representative of the average woman.
Some of the quotes are unbelievable, such as the woman who cried the first time she took her son to nursery, because they WOULD NOT take him as he was ill and she was devestated to miss out on two hours of time to herself. Or the woman who skipped down the road after leaving her child for the first time, saying she had never been so happy.
Most of the women are lawyers/doctors etc who have obviously spent many years studying and climbing the career ladder, and seem completely defined by their job, and feel they have no identity outside of work. They almost seem to see their children as an unwelcome interference to their career and can't wait to get back to work.
There is no input from the average woman with a run-of-the-mill job who has to go back for financial reasons, but doesn't really want to. Or how about a little feedback from women that decided to stay at home and look for a job in a few years? How did that work out?
The book quotes a statistic that 61% of mothers would work even if they did not need to financially, which I find a little unbelievable. If you are one of these women and feel guilty about your decision then this is the book for you.
If you, like I suspect the majority of mothers, have to go back to work and will miss your child, then this is not the book for you. You, like me, will not identify with it at all!