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on 21 February 2014
An American survey has revealed that the two most wanted superpowers are time travelling and mind reading.

This is an investigation into how mind reading can be achieved with lots of supporting evidence and references. There are also some challenges to more recently developed theories such as body language (listen instead!) and why you shouldn’t try to “put yourself in the other person’s shoes” (as suggested by Dale Carnegie).

The author maintains that your egocentrism gets in the way of your judgment. For example, you might be surprised for a moment that a blind man can perform tasks at night with no lights because you need the lights on. Tough guy actor Mark Wahlberg was supposedly due to fly on one of the 9/11 hijacked planes and has subsequently said in interviews that there would have been a very different outcome if he’d caught the flight. Sure. We’ve all thought ‘I would have done XYZ, not ABC’. You cannot truly understand a situation (e.g. being involved in mortal combat) unless you have been there yourself or talked to someone who has.

The book continues by suggesting that you can improve your decisions by improving your knowledge about what other people think. Political pollsters ask people how they would vote today, and not some point in the future. It is better to get a perspective than to take a perspective. Just because someone has liked cooking for a long time doesn’t necessarily mean that they want cookery things for their birthday.

The conclusion to the book is refreshingly simple and practical. If you want to know what people are thinking, Ask, don’t Guess.
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on 5 March 2014
Nicholas Epley is an outstanding professor in Chicago Booth's MBA Program, whose class I was very fortunate to attend. He now published a very insightful, interesting and easy-to-read book which explains how our mind works and which distortions prevent us from achieving an effective outcome. In the same way that his classes were inspiring and thought-provoking, the book is scientifically rigorous while fun to read.
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on 19 May 2018
Epley write complex material in a refreshingly accessible manner. I recommend this book for both casual readers and academics interested in dehumanization and anthropomorphism.
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on 25 April 2018
good value books
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on 5 June 2014
Debunks a lot of nonsense about 'reading' people, mirroring and micro-expressions. Gives a well-grounded and well-researched overview. At the end of the day if you want to understand what someone is thinking or feeling - ask them; then listen hard.
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on 3 February 2016
Gave as a gift to support worker in mental health. Really usefull book
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on 7 October 2017
Great read and inspiring
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on 22 August 2014
Well worth the ready. Informative and thought provoking - I really liked it.
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on 18 May 2014
At first glance i kind of thought this book would only be about winning, or getting your way. Where ever i got that idea from, i was wrong. Maybe because it was adressed as "others" and not me. Sure, you can look at it that way too. But it is not like some how to be rich in 30days or how to find the perfect partner.

I have 75 books on my shelf all about self help, phycology, etc those lines.
And this will be on my top 5 of books which have thaught me and helped me the most.

I find it humble, funny, surprising, very insightful, and sometimes it stirs me up because how on earth have i overlooked something so obivious.
It does not go into outerspace trying to explain something, with symbols, mystic or over complicated graphs and drawings.
It is also about you, and not only others.
It does not try to point fingers at anyone.
Stays within subject.
everyone will be able to read it, it has Little or no jargon (i dont mind jargon. but it is somewhat a relief to be without it) if it does it will usually be explained.
I like that it gives as many answers as it asks, i hate it when all a book does is to say.. "think about it.. think about it.. what does it mean.." And not providing anything to acually think about, or start your thinking befor moving to the next page where your asked a multitude battery of questions again only to be somewhat more confused.
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on 4 April 2014
Enjoyed this book. Very informative. Well written. Succinct and simple to comprehend. Worth reading and I would recommend it .
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