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on 2 July 2016
This book illustrates the covenant-pattern Jesus and Church / husband and wife. The reason why I have purchased it is because I was expecting to find refreshing biblical truth about the institution of marriage and its indissolubility, but sadly I have found nothing but compromise and inconsistency. The author's flaws reach their peak in the last chapter where the author deliberately deny biblical evidence. I would like to show the main flaws and inconsistencies I have found throughout the book.
On page 35 of the book “Recovering Biblical manhood and womanhood” John Piper wrote: “When the Bible teaches that men and women fullfil different roles in relation to each other, charging man with a unique leadership role, it bases this differentiation not on temporary cultural norms but on permanent facts of creation. This is seen in 1 Timothy 2:11-14.” Surprisingly, on page 139 of “This Momentary Marriage,” the author wrote: “but neither is producing children in marriage an absolute callings on all couples. It is normal, good, painful, glorious-but not absolutely required of all”. I find it inconsistent that the author who constantly takes Timothy 2:11-14 in order to forbid the leading authority of women over men, does not spend the same amount of efforts and dedication in order to promote childbearing in every marriage (unless there are health issues). 1 Timothy 2:15-16
Chapter 14 shows an essential Christian value: no remarriage after divorce for any reason, since it is equal to adultery. On pages 160 and 161 the author explains that God's will about divorce in Genesis 1-2 is not the same as his will expressed in Deuteronomy 24. Here John Piper correctly represents why divorce and remarriage is incompatible with Christianity. The author writes on page 160
“Jesus knew that the Pharisees were an 'adulterous generation'(Matt. 12:39). So he leads them to that very place and asks them in Mark 10:3, 'What did Moses command you?' He takes them to Moses. But they should be careful
here. Moses didn't just write the Deuteronomy, which they are about to quote. He also wrote Genesis. In Mark 10:4 they say, 'Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of divorce and to send her away.' That's true. It s a reference to Deuteronomy 24:1. What Jesus say in response to this defense of divorce? Verse 5: Jesus says to them, ' Because of your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment.' It implies, in other words, that there are laws in the Old Testament that are not expressions of God's will for all time, but expressions of how best to manage sin in a particular people at a particular time.”
The author rightly claims that divorce after remarriage is a grave sin and not an option for Christians. On page 168 the author emphasized:
“If a person is going to remain single to honor his or her marriage vows, that perspective will be crucial. Since God IS THE ONE WHO DECISIVELY MAKES EVERY MARRIAGE, only God has the right to break a marriage. And he does it by death. Which is why the biblical marriage vows have only one limitation: 'Till death do us part'.
Unbiblically and inconsistently on page 170 the author contradicts God's Command and openly insulted God's will. Piper wrote:
“In that sense [while a divorced spouse is still living] to remarry is adultery. But I do not think that a person who remarries against God's will, should later break the second marriage. The marriage should not have been done, but now that it is done, it SHOULD NOT BE UNDONE BY MAN. It is a real marriage. Real covenants vows have been made.”
It is obvious that John Piper chose compromise. Since God is the only One who makes every marriage (as the author claims), this so called second marriage is not a covenant at all but adultery. Piper inconsistently calls real marriage with real covenant vows what he identified (in obedience with the Scriptures) as adultery throughout his book.
I cannot stand this hypocrisy.