If you are thinking of buying this and dithering about just do it! I was fiddling about thinking about it and got the sample to my kindle. It is so useful. I love the approach and the reality checks. I am biological mother to a child with asd. I am not the target audience at all. I think if only there wad a rewrite for asd and sen kids it would be so wonderful. This approach totally gets it! Plus such helpful things to actually DO. Books so often say 'I will expand on that later and give you strategies' Then suddenly you have finished and hey where were the strategies I can actually use in my home... Well there's loads in here! I wish I wish I wish it was written or there was a sister book for sen kids but hey ho, I will just have to work it out myself what applies and what doesn't. However I have learnt so much and I take my hat off to the other people who are using this book and all the struggles they have to help mend the hearts of their kids.
I received this marvellous book this morning and have barely been able to put it down. I consider this essential reading for anyone parenting a child who has experienced developmental trauma, especially foster carers and adopters. That said, this is a book with strategies that will benefit all children and young people. It's as easy to read as it is hard to put down and offers fantastic strategies and solutions for all real life situations. Simply brilliant!
Sarah Naish has drawn on her own experience as a foster carer and parent of five adopted children and combined that with regularly asked questions and feedback from members of The National Association of Therapeutic Parents. The result is a book that is jargon free and easy to read. After explaining the approach behind therapeutic parenting the main section of the book takes every challenging and difficult situation you could come across then explains the reason behind the behaviour and gives a list of strategies to manage and change the behaviour. While the book is about children who have experienced trauma, the solutions and strategies given will work with all children. The strategies in this book work and will bring long term, positive change to traumatised children and their families. For future editions it would be useful to have the A-Z section indexed at the back of the book for quick reference.
This book is my new 'bible!' It is very easy to use and is extremely informative, written by an extremely experienced parent that has practised all of the techniques described. I've tried some of them and they work. It is not just a book for adoptive and foster parents but for every parent out there, if you're struggling with the children or young people in your family, then you have got nothing to loose, it is an essential read. Sarah Naish is my guru!
I was a little sceptical about this book because I find some of the ideas put forward in books recommended by Social Care are more theoretical than practical. This book breaks that mould. It opens by giving some global guidance about the therapeutic parenting approach which is applied throughout. I found that based in sound common sense and it was clearly written by someone who has been through exactly the same experiences that we are as adoptive parents.
The book is logical and well and well laid out. Once the basic principal is explained there is a logical a-z list of behaviours / problems whereby the behaviours are identified ie “What it looks like” then follows a list of “Why it might happen” then some suggested “Preventative strategies”, then “ Stategies during” and finally suggested strategies how to deal with the behaviours afterwards /long term.
This book was clearly written from real life experience (although the author is clearly very well qualified in this field academically) and not written by someone with no real personal experience who has just obtained a theoretical degree obtained in a university. That is what makes this book stand out. The author knows the reality and not just the theory. She clearly appreciates, from experience, the major traumas children taken into care have suffered. She appreciates the behaviours children develop as a direct result of the negative experiences that have been inflicted upon them and offers practical advice to recognise, to understand, to help cope with and how to address the behaviours for the children’s long term wellbeing but also for the sanity of the parents. It’s not the child’s fault that they need extra help but the author offers more than sympathy, she offers ways of identifying the cause of the behaviour and practical way to address the problem.
If you have a child who has been through the care system or is currently in care this book is a “must buy”.
This book is a fantastic resource for all parents and carers, a new bible in parenting children with additional and often complex needs. You can read book after book on parenting and still be struggling to find answers or strategies on managing behaviours, but Sarah Naish has revolutionised theraputic parenting and provided us with a fantastic resource. First, 'Therapeutic Parenting in a Nutshell' and now this absolute gem, they just get better and better!!!
Easy to read, easy to understand and a lifeline to us struggling parents and carers. A well written book that understands our daily dilemmas and helps us to get through them. It offers a realistic, usable alternative to traditional parenting. With a bit of effort it makes a huge positve life long difference to family life.
I don't know what I would do without the wisdom in these pages, the insight that Sarah Naish offers is soooo useful and easy to follow. The book is a really valuable insight into the meaning behind the most challenging of behaviours and offers a wide range of therapeutic responses. Warning: reading this could completely change your approach to parenting for the better - I know it did for me!
That was such a relief to read and learn from someone, who is actually understands the problem adopted kids and adoptive parents, as well. I am still reading it but it started to help already!!! Going to keep it close in the case of emergencies to be able to refresh the strategies even after finishing reading it. Thank you to Sarah for her books. I've bought 2 others for myself and 4 for my kid from her children books. Great staff.