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Avoid if you have ComplexPTSD
on 25 August 2016
I agree with another reviewer this is not a good book for someone with ComplexPTSD from childhood.
The exercises suggest doing them with someone else present, with the extraordinary statement ‘human beings do not feel completely safe when alone’. Well, some of us feel very very much less safe when with other people. Does he listen to his clients. How can someone who works as a therapist hold such an odd belief. Well I suppose those of us who are frightened of people don’t often go to therapists.
Then with the first exercise on establishing boundaries we are supposed to say “This is my hand, my hand belongs to me, my hand is part of me.”
To me this implies I am claiming to have rights, which for me is a very dangerous thing to do.
Moving on to using a pulsing shower head - how much does that feel like being beaten ?
That’s as far as I got with this.
I get on better with ‘Coping with trauma related dissociation’. The exercises are a much gentler lead in to the same issues.
And I’m continuing with ‘Healing Walks for Hard Times’ and ‘ComplexPTSD, from surviving to thriving’.
Also ‘How we love’. And acupressure. And the EFT mantra : ‘even though I - don’t feel safe when with other people - I deeply and completely accept myself’.
P.S. From the comments, people obviously feel strongly about whether this book is good for Complex PTSD. A good time to practice what people with Complex PTSD can have difficulty with : if you feel confident and supported then continue (though beware addictions !), if you feel diminished, bad, mis-understood - then don’t go on with it.