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Love and Respect - I really get half of it!
on 20 February 2010
Love and Respect: The Love she most desires, the respect he desperately needs. This was my third book from Thomas Nelson and I have to say the best one yet. The basic premise of the book is that in marriage the woman needs to know that she is loved and the man needs to know that he is respected. Problems start to arise when either marriage partner doubt this is the case. The author recognises the vast numbers of books on marriage out there but says this one is crucially different as it specifically tries to understand and apply Ephesians 5v33; `However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband'.
The book charts how this goes wrong, how men and women react to situations and what they hear from each other and Eggerichs offers a plethora of examples to show that it always comes back to love and respect. He then spends a good length of time practically going through what this will mean for men and then for women and finally the end results if you can order your marriage around love and respect.
I always feel slightly torn on books about marriage. There are so many of them, do they all say the same things in a different way? Do they employ popular psychology that I am cynical about - I'm not sure? I think you either are the type of couple who would read this and find it helpful or just not bother at all. I found it helpful in parts if not slightly long winded. I appreciated that the majority of what he said had a biblical basis and I think if I did practice some of the principles laid out in the book my marriage would be better - so I guess that's the ultimate review! For my progress check out [...]