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Very helpful but can put off non-Christians
on 28 May 2008
I personally was given this book by my wife to read and I wish I had read it 10 years ago. The author is very right when he says that the "in-love" feeling that we first experience when we meet someone can disappear in the first 2 years of marriage. Once the "in-love" emotion disappears we wonder why we loved that person to begin with. Thus begins the excuses we generate to separate or divorce.
In this book, the author shows that love is not a feeling, but it is a decision. The decision that everyone needs to make to speak the love language of the person we love. That love language could be words of affection and encouragement, doing household chores, touching, giving gifts or spending quality time together.
While the book is great and very helpful, it may not appeal to non-Christians because the author insists by drawing examples from the Bible and Jesus' own life. While this is okay, and I am not anti-religion, I do believe the biblical references are unnecessary and may turn off secular readers. This is a pity as the book's main theory that we speak five separate love languages is very plausible and should be given respect.