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Low desire? Then buy this book.
on 22 April 2013
I didn't find this helpful. If you're the one with high desire, not pressurising or getting angry with your spouse and you're both communicating well, it's not really worth reading. It could help you understand a low desire person more and understand why it's usually good at the start, when with some one new and stop you feeling duped... The author basically admits this at the end of the book. She was the low desire person and changed the way she thought about it, made more effort etc. I found it repetitive and patronising because I don't feel my hubby and I have difficulty with communication we have a very affectionate, loving relationship and simply have totally different sex drives. The person with high desire and completely wanting to stay married has to put up with it, stay kind and encouraging to their partner, hope they'll find it in their heart to see your pain and make more effort. Don't buy this if you're wanting your low desire partner to read it, it'll gather dust because he/she won't see there's a problem. The author even admits this but later in the book says she hopes you're reading it as a couple and that 'by now your spouse should hopefully be making changes'. Not meaning to sound like I'm passing 'blame' it might help some people improve their sex lives, especially if the low desire person reads it. Not all high desire people are nasty and angry or unable to communicate their needs.