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utterly disappointing, DO NOT BUY. If you already have, then DO NOT READ.
on 13 September 2014
doesn't do what it says on the tin! Unbelievably poor. Only really useful to those who are unable to talk to anyone at all and have absolutely no conversational skills. If that's the stage you're at then this book will help but as for the rest of us who are able to converse with others on a daily basis, don't let yourselves be fooled by the extremely over ambitious title.
One section I read was when the author was hired to teach a trade association "scintillating conversation" as the keynote speaker on networking. She meets the head of the association, a Mrs Devlin, and begins with the usual "where are you from?" and "what do you do?". Well Mrs Devlin says she's from Columbus, Ohio and the conversation comes to a halt. The author has no further conversation, she's stumped and cannot think of anything to say to continue the conversation or to move it forward or somehow divert it from imminent disaster. She then goes on to advise her readers that we should provide additional information about our hometown so that the other person has something to latch on to in order to continue the conversation. However, the author does not teach us how to deal with this particular situation. She does not teach you how to talk to anyone! I read on looking for her resolution to this predicament, preparing myself for what must have been exotically inspirational and completely out of this world. Something which sets this author, top conversationalist and networking guru to the lofty heights which she obviously deserves...but nothing, not a thing. It's like she whimpered off and later gave her speech, took the money and ran for her life.
She later goes on to research Columbus, Ohio and talk about all the facts she has learned. She also mentions that there are a number of Columbus's throughout the United States which is why one has to say "I'm from Columbus, Ohio" and not just Columbus.
I could not believe what I was reading. She could not continue a conversation because she was not given a lead, an opening into another area of conversation which she could easily pursue. So that means we can only "Talk to Anyone" who gives us conversational cues and just like the author, we can't talk to anyone. It led me to think that the author wanted us to research and find facts about every major town or city, just as she had about Columbus, so that we wouldn't find ourselves in this embarrassing situation. There was no Eureka moment but the exact opposite. This book is such a let down. Instead of being inspirational and providing sound advice or some questioning technique to enable you to talk to anyone, it tells you how to provide additional information in your answers so that the other person can continue the conversation if he or she so wishes! Surely she could have responded with "oh, what's it like in Columbus?" or "that's somewhere I've always wanted to visit because a college friend of mine...". Surely someone of Leil's stature in this field could have come up with something?
As another reviewer has written. I can't believe I've paid money to this author for this crap.