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this book is damaging to your self esteem
on 1 April 2014
I honestly cant believe someone has published this. The author has no clue about what men want and has managed to somehow write a book about it! She has tried to categorise petty little weird excuses into understandable meanings so she can conclude there are patterns as to why men don't call back when realistically all the excuses are so small and insignificant.
There are the odd few that can be categorised which we all know anyway such as "dont be too clingy or needy" dont talk about your ex or the fact you want marriage, dont be too bossy and take the reins too much etc. But the rest of them are just so diverse that I can only put it down to these particular guys insecurities. For example one guy said he didn't call a girl back because he tried to order for her and she wouldn't let him. Rachel suggests you should just let him order for you in order to seem easy going! In another example she suggests cancelling a plane ticket booked for a work trip in order to fit in a date if you don't have a lot of time! Suppose you did this and then he cancels at the last minute?! Way to put the power in his hands and leave yourself feeling worthless and needy! I cannot believe any self respecting woman would suggest such a thing! This is the complete opposite to what men want, they do not want a push over who cant stand their own ground and bend to their every way! Andy why should we?! They want a woman with respect for herself who values her own life above the need for a man.
This book gives you 1000 reasons to feel insecure about absolutely everything you do on a date so that you completely lose the essence of yourself and your self confidence trying not to repeat every "mistake" in the book. In reality there were probably other factors at play as to why he didn't call back which I suspect were never brought to light as I really cant believe all of these small and insignificant reasons are enough by themselves. In a lot of cases it sounds like the guy is an absolute idiot!
If you want a book that leaves you feeling empowered and in control try why men love bitches or Matthew Hussey's Get The Guy and steer well clear of this one if you dont want to become and insecure shrivelling wreck without the confidence to ever date again!