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Great preparation for your birth partner
on 10 January 2017
Bought this a few months before our first baby was due. It's a good read if:
a) you want to know about the process of labour - I already understood this but it was great for my husband
b) you want to feel like you can get through labour without going mad!
It's a bit touchy-feely no-interventions so not sure how it would work if your labour wasn't straight forward; it's based on the principle that your body can give birth without help yet we know that, for some, that's not the case. I reminded myself that my job was to get our baby here safely, not "have the ideal birth" for me.
I felt very prepared for the early "at home" part of labour using this book - I felt it gave me coping strategies. Unfortunately, I had no "at home" stage as I had a very quick labour which only started after we arrived at the hospital - but I'm sure the strategies are helpful for most!
The best part was how it prepared my husband. We both read the book and then talked about the parts I found reassuring from the book - such as reassurance that you are not "ill" when in labour (because to me, pain means something is wrong!). We didn't have "mantras" or anything but I did hear him quietly tell me some of the ideas that I'd found reassuring when I told him I was scared during my labour. It also helped to prepare him for me not really being able to engage in discussion, advocate for me and accept that I would be pretty much firing one word commands at him for a couple of hours!
All in all, I'm glad I bought and read this book - and even more glad that my husband read it. Did it help me have a quick, natural labour without pain relief? No, all of that was beyond my control (& frankly, I'm gutted about the lack of pain relief as I'd have loved some!). But it did help my partner reassure me and knowing that he understood my needs really helped bring our baby into the world as calmly as possible. I will insist he reads it again if we ever have another baby!