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Interesting but also frustrating and a touch sad!
on 28 September 2008
Ron J is a porn star. Famous for being hairy and (of course) well-built in the tackle dept. And not a pretty geezer, although arguably, he was when he was a young 'un. Jeremy is, by his own account, extremly talented - he says he's a classical musician (and provides scant evidence) registered childcarer (for which there is) and intellect (judge for yourself). This book is a mixture of very interesting stories about the adult entertainment industry, nice anecdotes about his interesting life, and yet it ultimately dissolves into a series of namechecks of the famous and becomes a litany of minor mishaps and pratfalls for somebody wanting to break into the mainstream of acting who never succeeds.
Jeremy knows everybody but this seems due entirely to his curiosity status as a porn legend rather than his acting ability, and in the end, you both envy him for his wonderful freedom and liberty in his sex and social life and for his utter lack of fulfilment on any other level: it is apparent that having made it in porn early, he has absolutely no idea about conventional relationships at all. He is painfully and honourably honest about this which adds a twinge of pathos to the book.
Jeremy seems to think he has (third? Forth?) career as a stand-up comedian but never makes us laugh seriously (laugh seriously? I'm on good form today), although we do smile with and at him frequently. And through it all, you really do like and pity him in equal measure. He's trying to punch above the odds. He's had a good life. He's self-depreciating. He's not arrogant. He's a porn star who wanted more and grazed the surface. Basically he popularised porn as an icon. That is probably all he should have aimed for for happiness. At that level, Mr J is the best thing the industry ever produced. Not bad going, and it's a fun read. A tiny bit sad for his foiled ambitions - but he did not have to tell us about those - so in a way, we get the truth about who he is and what he wanted.
The sex alone probably makes him a happier man than many have ever been - and the book is worth a read if you are open minded and curious. Possibly one of the most accessible works on the industry you'll ever be able to read. All told, however, I'd not swap his cock for my brains - even if many women I've met would!