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Initial post: 17 Feb 2013, 13:54:38 GMT
Stu says:
my daughter has some very strange eating habits and i wondered if yours or your relations had the same?my daughter will only eat chicken,pork.pasta,rice,noodles,carrots,chips,cucumber,cereals,bread,cheese spread,yoghurts,grapes,apples,oranges,chocolate,and a certain crisp.now if the cookable items are not cooked to just how she likes them she will not eat them

In reply to an earlier post on 17 Feb 2013, 15:39:09 GMT
pixie says:
Hi stu...we used to take kids out for birthday treat and one of them would only eat White food! Really difficult when the other's had quirky eating fads too!

Posted on 17 Feb 2013, 16:21:02 GMT
Oh Stu, don't get me started on this subject. It is the bane of my life

I really find it hard to come up with meals that everyone will be happy with. Sometimes I feel like telling them to feed themselves

In reply to an earlier post on 17 Feb 2013, 16:29:30 GMT
Stu says:
really that bad mrs,p?

Posted on 17 Feb 2013, 16:37:34 GMT
My Mum used to cook separate meals for my brother because all he would eat was mince or sausages and chips, how daft was that and where does it all start. Do you think some Mums worry about their children starving to death and so they pander to them to get them eating. If mine didn,t want to eat I just let her get on with it. She soon scoffed her food up when she was hungry again, and she was rarely ill as a child.xxx

In reply to an earlier post on 17 Feb 2013, 16:40:27 GMT
How old is she Stu, children's taste buds aren,t fully formed at a young age so stuff tastes different to them and sometimes it,s a texture thing. I don,t think she,s doing too badly so it,s not worth making a fuss, that makes them worse in my experience.xxx

Posted on 17 Feb 2013, 16:46:20 GMT
Happy says:
My daughter was the same, almost an identical list. When she was very small she'd eat anything, but it all started to screw up when she got to about three. Now aged 27 she's better but still choosy. I think there is just too much choice these days and perhaps money. As a child the choice was what was put in front of you, and snacks were bread with something on it but nothing exciting, or cereal usually cornflakes, and that was assuming there was enough milk left for the morning. We wouldn't dream of taking the milk unless we'd checked first.
I never cooked anything different for our daughter, but she'd rather go without than eat something that wasn't on her list. She never had sweets, or puddings because if she did she wouldn't even eat her favourites. It worked in her favour, she's got a super figure now and not an once of fat and a totally flat tummy>

In reply to an earlier post on 17 Feb 2013, 16:57:14 GMT
Stu says:
siobhan will be 7 in june love,as i dont actually cook for her yet i dont make any fuss its mum who is pandering to her a bit

In reply to an earlier post on 17 Feb 2013, 17:05:49 GMT
Stu says:
hi hc how are you keeping love ok i hope,i think siobhan will be the same almost model like figure,shes growing very fast and is nearly as tall as me,no fat on her now,so shes taking after grandma in that respect

Posted on 17 Feb 2013, 17:09:04 GMT
Yes, us Mums do that sometimes, we get sucked in by our little darlings don,t we.xxx

In reply to an earlier post on 17 Feb 2013, 17:33:04 GMT
Stu says:
no offence to yourself or the other ladies on the forum but mums are generally softer with there children than dads,and the little darlings spot that very soon and play on it do they not instead of us bad daddies who can say no lol

Posted on 17 Feb 2013, 19:03:42 GMT
I watched a friend's six-year-old lead her around by the nose with the food fad thing. He was the youngest of three and in that particular case I think she felt guilty because he had been a "surprise" (ie unwanted pregnancy). She ended up having to prepare one meal for the family and another for her youngest. He would only eat "crispy" meat (ie meat cooked by itself, in the oven, nothing cooked with it.) He wouldn't eat 80% of vegetables and potatoes had to be chips, no mash or boiled or baked.

My mum would simply say, "If you're hungry, this is what there is. Eat it and be glad." She had my sister home from school for few days because she tried on the "faddy eater" thing...keeping her home made sure she wasn't eating some other kid's lunch. But we didn't have much of that, partly because we had a veg garden and fresh veg is delicious particularly when you yourself planted, weeded, watered and picked it. Also I guess because my elder brothers ate all of whatever was going, it was grab it quick before someone else does! I learned to cook at a very young age and after that for a couple of years we had roast chicken every Sunday because it was easy and I could set the thing to bake while we were in church...come home and toss the salad and dinner's ready! LOL My dad started to complain and mum shut him up quick...he never cooked a meal in his life that wasn't pancakes!

In reply to an earlier post on 17 Feb 2013, 20:33:59 GMT
Stu says:
i liked the ending about dad lol,but none of us as children were faddy eaters because family could not afford the choice,so we ate what was given us.

In reply to an earlier post on 17 Feb 2013, 20:51:38 GMT
pixie says:
Us too...when I got home from school I was always starving...when I asked what was for tea...always the same reply "Bread and pullet!" I never knew what that was....til mum said "A slice of bread and you pull it round the table!" why do mums do that!Lol! She also said I had hollow legs...no change there!

In reply to an earlier post on 17 Feb 2013, 21:02:50 GMT
Stu says:
i was told i had hollow legs too,same here no change,lol

In reply to an earlier post on 18 Feb 2013, 07:41:58 GMT
Ah, like potatoes and point! My Danish grandma would tell us how they tied a salt herring to the cieling lamp, then you took a boiled spud and pointed it at the herring before eating.

In reply to an earlier post on 4 Mar 2013, 12:41:05 GMT
K. A. Newton says:
I used to say to my daughter when she played up at the table.

"You need certain vitamins for your body to grow and work properly. I don't expect you to eat everything on the plate like I had to do but I do expect you to eat a little bit of everything." She usually compromised.

Funny but just before Christmas we had started introducing new foods to her baby and on Christmas Day we put a little plate down for him with bits of everthing on. All mashed separately. The chicken had been chopped very finely. He did not like the carrots but ate a small amount of everything.

Then I heard her say "Ryan, just you have a bit of everything so you will get all your vitamins".

He did not have much carrot but liked the sprouts and potatoes. Of course we had cooked everything without salt.

Since Christmas he eats carrots mixed half and half with potatoes. I wonder if it was the colour of the carrots.

We had banana icecream for afters and Mum fed him first, then herself with him watching her spoon very closely.

In reply to an earlier post on 4 Mar 2013, 14:06:29 GMT
pixie says:
I think children "Learn" to be faddy at an early age Kath so if they are introduced to new foods when very young I'm sure it helps...sounds like your daughter took your words on board.

In reply to an earlier post on 4 Mar 2013, 14:23:55 GMT
K. A. Newton says:
She still won't eat green beans though.

Posted on 4 Mar 2013, 14:57:42 GMT
Last edited by the author on 4 Mar 2013, 15:01:36 GMT
My MIL used to tell me how if they had guests at a meal she would put my husband in another room to eat "because he was so shy." DH says she did, but not because he wanted her to. He says he still has no idea why she did it.

I mean she did this when he was a kid.

Posted on 4 Mar 2013, 17:25:42 GMT
BusyMum says:
We haven't had any particular 'fads', but I do feel that feeding my children is like hitting a moving target sometimes. My eldest (just turned 5) is becoming a bit more reliable when it comes to food. He generally eats well and seems to be genuinely hungry come mealtimes. The younger one (nearly 3) is more tricky. He'll often reject what everyone else is having and I'm afraid I usually just let him go without. I offer something like fruit, but won't go down the road of cooking something else. This is mostly out of necessity (I don't have the time or money to waste), but also I feel he needs to learn to have what everyone else is eating.

I had a friend at school once who existed solely on bananas. She survived and now eats pretty much everything!

In reply to an earlier post on 4 Mar 2013, 22:10:18 GMT
I think you are spot on BusyMum, once you start cooking separate meals or gettin g into a battle over food you may as well throw in the towel. Children rarely starve themselves and he/she will eat when hungry. My Mum cooked separate food for my Brother, now 50' he still does not eat properly and I don,t think he will make old bones, he always has something wrong.xxxx

Posted on 5 Mar 2013, 08:36:42 GMT
BusyMum says:
Yes, you are kind of on a slippery slope when you start doing separate meals Cookingdiamond. I can see why people do it though. It's very distressing when your child won't eat and your instinct is telling you to do all you can just to get some food into them. I do think we sometimes overestimate the amount they need though. I try to look at what they've had over the course of the day, or even over a few days. If you add it all up it can be a lot more than you think. They also go through phases of needing very little and then eating loads. It's only fairly recently that my 5 yo son has regularly been eating reasonable amounts.

In reply to an earlier post on 5 Mar 2013, 10:23:45 GMT
I witnessed a struggled on holiday a few years ago where a mother tried to force feed her child everyday in the restaurant. I,ve never seen an exhibition like it. The little boy was about 4/5 and he was playing with his food,picking at it, eating a bit you know. She started to get het up and trying to put stuff in his mouth, the boy started to choke and retch, crying and upset. Dad tried to calm them both but she got angrier and angrier at the child. He stomped out of the restaurant leaving them, I dread to think what ensued. It was obviously an ongoing thing with them, so distressing for them all and the boy still didn,t eat his breakfast. I so wanted to talk to her, but of course that was out of the question, I often think about that family.xxx

In reply to an earlier post on 5 Mar 2013, 17:20:57 GMT
Last edited by the author on 5 Mar 2013, 17:24:17 GMT
K. A. Newton says:
Heartrending isn't it.

If a child is quite healthy and not obviously in need of food ie. not fading away. You might as well not insist they eat. If they eat and it comes back up, you might as well not have bothered. Just make sure they don't get anything to eat between that and the next meal. If they are hungry they will eat.

( I used to tell my daughter to just eat a bit of everything on the plate, she could leave some. Each day she ate a bit more. Green beans are a no no even though she is 36 now. )

If the situation continues with the child not eating enough naturally you'll have to call the doctor in but usually the child decides it is hungry after all after a couple of days. Just make small portions he/she can pick at.

A friend, who was a nurse incidentally, solved her son's not eating by suggesting he helped cook the meals each night. They decided what to cook and helped in the supermarket - he chose the ingredients to add to the bought pizza base. Grandmother sent over pastry in a dish with the pastry lid for the pie on a plate and he helped get the ingredients ready to go in the pie.

Mum worked Fri Sat and Sun nights so Sunday's evening meal was Sunday dinner that Dad cooked with his son's help. Of course he ate what he had helped cook every day. Once he was in school though he discovered other boys did not cook and it stopped. Luckily he was eating lots of things by then so the not eating this and not eating that problem was solved.
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