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- Publisher: Write on Track Press; 1 edition (11 Dec. 2013)
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Would You Marry A Farmer? Kindle Edition
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Highly recommend this book to those who are in farming or soon to marry in to farming.
I read a British newspaper feature a few years ago, which showed seven of the handsomest, fittest, strongest young men you could imagine. All were single and unable to meet women willing to come and live on their farms. Rural Norfolk sounds like an idyllic way of life until you have to live it. I've also read Yorkshire and Peak District crime stories which present an even harder, more isolated farm life because of the rugged countryside and basic dwellings. While ranches and farms in America or Canada hire the barest minimum of staff and may expect them to live in a caravan with only radio contact and a food and fuel restock once a month. Stations in Australia expect women to cook for a team of hardy men, half a day's drive from the nearest neighbour, but don't necessarily agree that women can do station work. Mexican avocado farmers are forced to pay protection money to the local gangsters, and may find murdered journalists dumped on their land.
So, asks Lorna Sixsmith, would you marry a farmer, considering that you would be marrying into a farming household and a small community? You might be living with your in-laws, or one of them, and the farmer's siblings until they can get educated and leave. You won't get foreign holidays or even romantic restaurant dinners very often, and your bank balance will be in the red for months like as not, then when the farm payments cheque arrives it needs to go to a tractor purchase rather than a new kitchen; while there will be a permanent load for the washing machine, a team of silage contractors to be fed unexpectedly and you will be judged by other women on the standard of your baking, not your fashion sense.
We get a look back at the history of marriages on Irish farms and why women fled to towns, cities and the New World. I found the research very interesting especially as the Irish country family has been a good steward of the land, treating animals well and making environmentally friendly decisions in order to hand on the farm to the next generation. But what generation, if a farmer can't afford to marry and must find a bride with a dowry? Lorna shows us adverts from past days, stating upfront that a prospective wife must have her own dowry, or that a man trained in farm management would like to meet a woman with a farm. The farmer might need to pay for his parents' pension, or build a cottage for his mother, or educate his siblings, before he could take on the farm or start his own family. He thus often married late and could not afford to carry out improvements.
Isolation, bleak weather and lack of entertainment often led farmers to drinking. A man could go to a pub but this was not acceptable for women, so the farm wife was twice as isolated. Lorna tells us that modern Ireland has 'invisible farmers' - the women who work alongside the men. This includes calving, raising sickly lambs, gardening, milking and counting the cows. And they have to do the housework, which is physical and never ending, and some of the paperwork. Only a small proportion of women are farmers in their own right. Lorna says that women can work outside the farm, at least until they have children, or can make and sell farm produce, or can do other work from the farm like writing. They might as well, because the farmer will be outside for much of the day, especially if he milks twice a day or has an 'out-farm' which is a second piece of land he has to reach by car.
We get helpful lists of farming terms or weather terms, like all the variations of 'a grand soft day' and a look at what to expect and not expect from your affectionate farm husband. Including how to stay married, with divorces threatening to split the family farm. I enjoyed the cheeky and cheerful illustrations by Joanne Condon, and there is a photo on the back of the book showing a reassuringly normal healthy family. I am a horsey person, and there is nothing about horses except that they will be considered expensive. If you want to know about marrying into a farm, though, Lorna appears to have it covered. I would read more by this author, who writes a blog on the topic.
Rural communities feature in Irish literature and Lorna references Peig Sayers, who had a match made for her with a farmer on the Great Blasket island. You may also be interested in:
The Loneliest Boy In The World
All Of Us There
Vet On The Loose
Breakfast The Night Before
The Days of The Servant Boy
Brown Lord of The Mountain.
This is an unbiased review. Disclaimer: as Ireland is small I have occasionally encountered the author on line, but I bought this paperback in the normal way and I have not been asked to review.
There is so much truth in this book, things that young people will find hard to believe. I was a farmer from 17 years old until my mid thirties, when I ...married a farmer! Thank heaven he was nothing like some of the examples in Lorna's book. Best thing I ever did. Anyway I had a successful horse dealing business going and was delighted to leave the rest to him. But some of my experiences in the interval before I met John would seem unbelievable today. Marjorie Quarton
I wasn't disappointed for as well as being immensely informative on the issues involved the author manages to be really entertaining while she explores all aspects of the farming way of life.
In the early stages of the book the author delves into the social history of marriage in Ireland from the early days of the twentieth century. Yet her research is never allowed to become dry or academic. It's presented in an entertaining way which grabs and holds the reader's attention right from the start.
Lorna Sixsmith is herself a farmer's wife so she speaks with authority on the subject, presenting all sides of the equation in her own unique style. The most common form of farming in Ireland is of course the family farm, which means all members of the family are involved in the running of the farm which is their means of livelihood and way of life. No woman reading this book will be under any illusions as to the demands made on her time for it's a seven days a week, 365 days a year commitment.
Lifted and lightened by the humorous drawings scattered throughout, it's also a good read for the general reader who wants to be entertained as well as informed. As such I highly recommend it.
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