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Who's Pulling Your Strings?: How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life (NTC Self-Help) Paperback – 1 Nov 2004

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  • Paperback: 276 pages
  • Publisher: McGraw-Hill Education (1 Nov. 2004)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0071446729
  • ISBN-13: 978-0071446723
  • Product Dimensions: 15 x 1.8 x 22.6 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (64 customer reviews)
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"She helps readers recognize manipulation, and assess and reduce their own vulnerability, and teaches resistance tactics to use when faced with manipulation."

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A powerful program to free yourself from manipulators--and regain control of your life

Millions of people, both men and women, can become involved in relationships with manipulators--people who control through emotional manipulation, insults, and mind games. These "toxic" relationships erode self-esteem and make life miserable for the victim. Whether the manipulator is a relative, a spouse or romantic partner, a boss, coworker, or subordinate, or even a trusted friend or advisor, Dr. Harriet B. Braiker, bestselling author of The Disease to Please, shows you how to break this damaging cycle for good.

Who's Pulling Your Strings? will help you end a current destructive relationship, understand how it occurred--and prevent you from ever getting involved in a manipulative relationship again. Using revealing self-assessment quizzes, action plans, and how-to exercises, Dr. Braiker empowers you to:

  • Recognize the signs of a manipulative relationship
  • Spot manipulators and their typical ways of operating
  • Assess your own vulnerability to manipulation
  • Identify the 7 main "Head Games" manipulators play
  • Utilize effective resistance tactics against manipulator's efforts
  • Transform yourself from a "soft" to a "hardened" target
  • Extricate yourself from manipulative relationships that do not change
  • Protect yourself from falling prey to manipulators' control in the future
  • Stop others from pulling your strings once and for all

With insight, compassionate advice, and self-affirming strategies, Dr. Braiker helps you end any manipulative relationship and regain control of your life--starting right now.

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Alongside 'Why does he do that' by Lundy Bancroft (see my other review) I read this book after leaving a 6 month abusive relationship, to try and understand what exactly had happened and more importantly how I had allowed it to happen. I needed confirmation that I wasn't going mad, that I didn't have the Personality Disorder he claimed I had (along with all the other nasty accusations) or that I was from a dysfunctional family, that he tried to brain wash me into believing I had. Instead this book confirmed everything that I, in my gut feeling, believed to be true. That he was manipulative, controlling and a liar, and that it was HE who was the problem.

It covers all relations from romantic, co-workers, friends and family members and will give you an insight into how the mind of a manipulative, controller works. This will you give you the ability to dis-arm their attempts to intimidate and undermine you any further. On a more personal level, the book questions if your personality is open to being manipulated, and unfortunately for me, it was. It flags up vulnerable times in your life when you are more susceptable to manipulation, eg during a transition in your life or during a period of low self-esteem (and the skilled manipulator will pick up on it and home on it). But it teaches you how to wise up and provide a resistance to the abusive techniques they use in order to control you. In the chapter 'your buttons are showing' it teaches you the lessons in what you will need to adjust and change in order to protect yourself so that you can avoid being 'played' and sucked in again in the future. It includes self-assessment quizzes, action plans and how-to exercises. All an enormous help.
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This book really goes into detail about the dynamics and mechanics of manipulative relationships. It's written in an easily readable style and is packed with useful information. It makes a great handbook for anyone who is fed up with being manipulated
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The book is spot on for my situation. well informed easy to read and straight to the point with solutions to work to.
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I like this book very much.In a simple and easy understood language the author explains how people fall prey to manipulators which can be anyone: members of family,romantic partners, friends, colleagues or authority figures. Usually the closer someone is in terms of relationship the bigger chances are for manipulation, emotional and psychological which is the main subject of the book.As it is often difficult to uncover emotional manipulation due to its obscurity and subtlety the author analyses closely mechanisms behind this type of manipulation, explaining step by step how people are manipulated, why , methods of manipulation and how to regain independence from it and live your own life.There are tests to determine who is more prone to manipulation and why, in the author's words , the buttons' which manipulators use in order to enslave their victims psychologically.There are techniques provided how to resist usually hidden , well covered acts of pulling the strings. Excellent read as I recognised my own struggles to free and distance myself from toxic, manipulative people in my life , exactly in my family.I also recognised some of the 'buttons' I unknowingly practised and by doing so was an easy target for unscrupulous people.The author recognises 7 so called buttons which give a green light to manipulators to use someone for their own selfish and sometimes dangerous purposes and they are: 1.people pleasing mind set and habits 2.addiction to acceptance and approval of others, 3.fear of feeling negative emotions, 4.lack of assertiveness and inability to say NO, 5.blurry sense of your own identity and self, 6.low self reliance and distrust in your own judgments, 7.external locus of control and perception that life and things happening are under control of others rather than depend on our will.Read more ›
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This book is an excellent summary of the manipulative personality. It correctly identifies the manipulative as totally self-centred, or incredibly "insecure". I have found it fascinating that the term "control freak" is sometimes used as a "friendly" way of saying, "I am going to manipulate you".

It is a topic that has been neglected by the "experts". The manipulator can send you into depression and self-hatred. I have had the experience where even the manipulator suggested that I need "help", and either did not see that they were the problem, or was another way of carrying on the manipulation.

Excellent stuff. I will be more confident of spotting these horrible people more in the future.
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I have bought so many introspective books trying to fix 'me' This wonderful book was a refreshing change because although I still take responsibility for my part, The ' manipulator' can only change when you change YOUR OWN behaviour.Thats a choice for you to consider. This automatically changes the dynamics.Great..xx
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Can you spot a manipulator? I know I can after reading this book. This book has certainly opened my eyes, I am still learning to deal with my manipulator but this book has helped me spot the tactics being used and recognise what "hooks" my manipulator is using against me. In doing so it is helping me to free myself from the manipulation and do what is in my best interests. I have a way to go but have made a great start with the help of this book. Read it, it is a must if you think you are being manipulated.
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