- Paperback: 384 pages
- Publisher: Berkley Publishing Group; Reprint edition (30 Mar. 2005)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0425200310
- ISBN-13: 978-0425200315
- Product Dimensions: 15 x 2.6 x 22.8 cm
- Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars See all reviews (12 customer reviews)
- Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 186,121 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse Paperback – 30 Mar 2005
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If you have a child who has seen or heard abuse, this book is for you. Patricia Evans, author of Teen Torment: Overcoming Verbal Abuse at Home and at School
The perfect, long-awaited guide for mothers who have been abused also essential reading for every social worker, custody evaluator, guardian ad litem, custody attorney, child protection worker, and judge. Joan Zorza, Esq., editor, Domestic Violence Report
The system to protect the abused is seriously flawed. Bancroft helps mothers win the battle using the court s rules while empowering them to write new ones. The Cleveland Plain Dealer
A gift to mothers who are in abusive relationships. With exceptional compassion and deep understanding, Lundy Bancroft helps abused mothers understand how their children are affected by an abuser s attitude and behavior, and empowers them to help their children heal I strongly recommend the book to mothers who are currently being abused or who have been abused in the past, as well as to therapists who work with abused women and their children. Beverly Engel, MFT, author of The Emotionally Abused Woman and Loving Him Without Losing You
Wonderful this book covers the most important concerns facing an abused mother, in a friendly and compassionate tone that helps women avoid self-blame, while empowering them to promote their children s well-being. Mo Therese Hannah, Ph.D., psychologist, Siena College"
About the Author
Lundy Bancroft has over twenty-five years of experience in the fields of abuse, trauma, and recovery. He has published five books, including the bestsellerWhy Does He Do That?, Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That?, When Dad Hurts Mom, The Batterer as Parent, and Should I Stay of Should I Go?.Lundy has worked with over 1000 abusive men in his counseling groups. He has also served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness, and has presented to 350 audiences across the U.S. and abroad."
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After reading 'The Verbally Abusive Relationship' I realised I needed to know more about how the abuse had affected my kids, who are both grown-up now with kids of their own. My daughter has often been difficult and seems to blame me for something I am unaware of. So when I saw this book I bought this too, hoping it might give me some answers and insight into what their lives were really like living with all that abuse flying round throughout their childhood.
What an eye-opener! I had tried to prevent my kids hearing what went on, but this book helped me realise that they would have been the innocent by-standers and equally as traumatised as I was, though the abuse was rarely directed at them. I'm sure they were fearful - my son often went into his elder sister's bedroom to be with her when things erupted, for comfort/security. Life was pretty awful for me, so it was certainly no better for them. Like me, they too probably experienced anxiety and dread as the time grew near when their father was due home from work.
It was hard to read this book, and I was very emotional at times, but it has enabled me to see a way forward in order to talk to my daughter about what was going on during her childhood. This book confirms that it is frequently impossible to be a good mum whilst taking lots of abuse, as your instinct is to just try and simply survive. The truth is that you do your best in very difficult circumstances, but through no fault of your own, it often falls short of what is really needed.
The writer confirms that a man who cares for his family and children, doesn't abuse their mother as it prevents her taking proper care of the children. It is important to know that if, like me, you have frequently felt to have fallen short in the "Super Mum" stakes.
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A must for all women. Should be given to all agencies including police, social services, solicitors, teachers, counsellors, nurses, doctors etc a real eye opener!!!!Published 13 months ago by Ms Michelle Irvine
Great book ! Clear and invaluable info
Everything the book predicted would happen, reactions, everything - did happen
Well written easy to read and understand. Also easy to imagine yourself in some of the situations described. Hard to decide what to in real life situations. Books make it seem easyPublished on 27 April 2013 by Izzy