- Paperback: 256 pages
- Publisher: Piatkus (26 Feb. 2004)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 074992490X
- ISBN-13: 978-0749924904
- Product Dimensions: 14 x 2 x 21.6 cm
- Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars See all reviews (85 customer reviews)
- Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 398,669 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
What Mothers Do: especially when it looks like nothing Paperback – 26 Feb 2004
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A great book if you're feeling like a less-than-perfect new mum. This perceptive look at motherhood comforts you and reminds you that being a mum is one of the most important jobs in the world (**** NOW! MUM & BABY, Apr 10)
The best book on parenting brilliantly insightful (GUARDIAN)
I wish I'd had this book years ago - to show to bosses who didn't understand, to friends who couldn't grasp why I was permanently tired, and even to myself - to know that I wasn't the only one who wished for an extra eight hours in the day (Anne Diamond, television presenter, mother)
THE BEST PARENTING BOOK YOU'VE NEVER HEARD OF (Anne Karpf, The GUARDIAN)
From the Author
I am very grateful for these reviews of What Mothers Do. I'm collecting reviews from mothers, from fathers, from grandparents and from non-parents. I'm sorry that I haven't yet got my own website. However, you can contact me through my publishers on firstname.lastname@example.org and title it: For Naomi Stadlen, What Mothers Do. I'm very keen to hear from each of you.See all Product description
Top Customer Reviews
The main point of the book is that the best way of parenting is to find what works for you and your child. It advocates a much more natural way of parenting and it also re-affirms the fact that being a mum is a valuable and important contribution, not just to your child but to society as well. A real confidence boost!
As a first time mum, I have felt like I have been wandering in the dark with all these feelings that I could never put into words. I thought that there was something seriously wrong with me and the strength of different feelings I had about my baby. Reading this book helped me to realise that I am actually perfectly normal.
If you only ever read one book on Motherhood, then it really has to be this one.
The author looks sympathetically at mothers, whether they are stay-at-home, work-at-home, or work-outside-the-home. This is a book that gives you words for what being a mother means in a concrete kind of way.
She helps you fill in the blanks when someone asks you what you've done all day, and you know that you've been insanely busy but can't actually put in words what you've done. You know that you ran two loads of wash, changed 5 diapers, and managed feeding your child, but can that REALLY fill up 9 hours?? Oh yes! What about the nurturing and comfort that you provided? How about the education that you provided as you emptied the washing machine over 10 minutes instead of 2 as you explain to your baby "this is a sock", etc.
The "tasks" of mothering don't have words or an accompanying value in Western society, but this book helps you name what you do and feel good about it!
All I can say: Buy it as fast as you can and enjoy!!
Despite this the main message of the book is upbeat and heartwarming.
Naomi Stadlen's style is reassuring but undidactic - she is at pains to reassure readers not to feel inadequate if their experience differs from that she outlines. In this manner this book would probably be helpful for you no matter what approach (if any!( you are taking to parenthood. Furthermore her observations, while simply and easily articulated, clearly come from a well of digested knowledge gained by both years of first hand experience of mothers and motherhood and a deep understanding of relevant areas of academic research. Ms Stadlen is no self-help hack; her prose is the real deal and her cautious advice a comfort for any parent doubting their instincts.
Ladies, if your partner is reluctant to read another baby book, simply get him to read the chapter 'Snapping at my partner'....a peek into why we take out the frustrations of our day on them!
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Such a relief to find my experiences put into words. So much mothering is undervalued leaving mothers feeling empty and worthless when the reverse should be true.Published 3 months ago by AS
Looking back over the first year or so of motherhood this book makes a lot of sense of things that seemed chaotic and frustrating at the time. Read morePublished 5 months ago by Elizabeth L.
The early chapters about recognising what a mother does all day while at home with her baby were great. Very enlightening and encouraging. Read morePublished 8 months ago by Y
Ditch the 'how to' book and read this instead. New mums often think they're the only one on the unstoppable hormone, going crazy, roller coaster. You're not. Read morePublished 14 months ago by CPC