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The Way We Really Are: Coming To Terms With America's Changing Families Paperback – 9 May 1998

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  • Paperback: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Basic Books; New Ed edition (9 May 1998)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0465090923
  • ISBN-13: 978-0465090921
  • Product Dimensions: 12.7 x 25.4 x 2.5 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 3.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (1 customer review)
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About the Author

Stephanie Coontz is a member of the faculty of Evergreen State College in Olympia, WA, where she is a historian and an expert on American culture.

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By A Customer on 29 Jun. 1999
Format: Paperback
I enjoyed Ms. Coontz's previous book but found this one a disappointmet. "The past wasn't what we think it was and anyway we can't go back", is a useful starting point for debate on any social topic. The question on everyone's mind then becomes, "So what should we do now?". And unfortunately the author never addresses the fundamental of what might make for a good family. Why do people look back at the 50s as a golden age? Forget every television image and false theory, concentrate instead on two variables: parental involvement as measured by time and continuity of environment.
If Ms. Coontz had confined herself to these I think she would found her answer to why many people think children today are being shortchanged. Forget the question of whether such families are led by gays, lesbians, single parents, people who have remarried, etc. The fact is parents spend much less time today with their children, by all measures, and there's much less continuity whatever the situation.
"This is how things are today, deal with it", is not a solution or even a very sophisticated description of the problem. If one can imagine a world of diverse families it still stands to reason that the basic needs of children are probably similar and the author might spend some time spelling out what they are. That book has yet to be written. There's no reason a progressive couldn't write such a book but he or she would need a lot of courage.
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5.0 out of 5 stars The Way We Still Really Are; Still Current in 2014 3 Aug. 2014
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The sad part of reading this book is the realization that, for the most part, this is still the way we really are. Dr. Coontz offered numerous suggestions on ways to deal with the problems of the new family but hardly any have been implemented in the US. The writing is clear and easy to understand despite your level of knowledge on the subjects discussed. The author's later writings have been equally knowledgeable and accessible to laymen and experts alike. "Marriage, A History" is perhaps the best book available for a factual look at marriage from the beginning of human civilization till today. Dr. Coontz's authority on the subjects of family life and marriage has been well established. She provides an unbiased look at who, what, where, when, why and how. The what to do about it part is her gift with purchase. We need to pay attention.
5.0 out of 5 stars Good and easy read with little to no embellished word play 18 May 2016
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Bought because this was referenced often in my Gender and Poverty class. I love her easy writing style that doesn't dance around with academic flourished language. Easy to follow by 'layman' society and an interesting time capsule to how things really were back in the day.
I would also recommend her other books and a book with the title The Good Ole Days, They Were TERRIBLE!!!
5.0 out of 5 stars Good college textbook studying the Changing Family Structure in America. Part of a BSN program. 27 Nov. 2013
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This textbook for a course on the Changing Family in America was needed at the last minute so I was able to buy it and receive it with a short turnaround time for a professor who was going to write the syllabus over Christmas holiday. This is part of a collection of college texts which study the Changing Family structure in America -- so much diversity. In diversity is great beauty.
5.0 out of 5 stars Actually a really good read. 24 Oct. 2014
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Pleasantly surprised by this book. Didn't think it was going to be a good read, but it actually hit close to home. It talks about how familes have changed over the years with real situations that people face today. Read it for a Family class I took at WSU.
5.0 out of 5 stars Stephanie Coontz is the top historian of the family in ... 8 Dec. 2014
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Stephanie Coontz is the top historian of the family in America. This book is not entirely up to date, but it's still quite valuable and insightful.
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