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Unconditional: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays-vs-Christians Debate Paperback – 17 Jan 2013

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  • Paperback: 240 pages
  • Publisher: Hodder & Stoughton (17 Jan. 2013)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1444745417
  • ISBN-13: 978-1444745412
  • Product Dimensions: 15.7 x 1.9 x 23.2 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (19 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 940,211 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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What makes this book different is that it is not essentially about arguing a case but about bridging the gaps of understanding and sympathy that have distorted or muffled the overwhelming miracle of God's gift in Christ and in Scripture. I welcome it very warmly. (Rowan Williams)

I believe that what is going on here is crucial for the destiny of the Church. Especially since [the Gay Christian Network] recognises [both sides in the gay/Christian debate], and that there is an ability to love and accept across those lines. (Tony Campolo)

Justin Lee is a courageous, kind, thoughtful and emotionally sophisticated gay man who obviously loves Jesus and is fearless in his pursuit of God's reality. Here's hoping (and praying) that more of us straight followers of Jesus learn from his example and find a way to follow in Justin's footsteps. (Jim Henderson)

Many who face a similar struggle will find much here to make them laugh and cry. For those who want to know what such struggles can be like, I can recommend no better place to begin than this book (Symon Hill Third Way Magazine)

Justin Lee has written a brave book. Unconditional isn't just from the heart, but from the head too. It's a well-considered, thoroughly-researched and persuasive call for understanding and dialogue between both sides on what has come to be seen as the 'gays vs Christians debate' in the culture wars. (Greg Jameson Entertainment Focus)

I loved this book - it's personal, it's Justin's life story. He shares his heartaches, joys, and faith. (Gay Christian Online)

Pick of the new releases - UNCONDITIONAL is a sensitive exploration of sexuality from an evangelical perspective that draws on personal experience (The Church of England)

Committed to biblical integrity in his thinking, he nonetheless poses provocative and uncomfortable questions that will cause the reader to think... his book offers the prospect of better understanding for all. (RS Christianity)

Justin Lee has written a book that has so much to commend it. Unconditional...movingly relates his own personal experience of same-sex attraction whilst growing up in evangelical circles and coping with negative responses.

His persistent desire to educate those who misunderstand same-sex attraction is impressive and his balanced treatment of its origins is one of the most helpful I have read.

(Ed Shaw Living Out)

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Finally, the book that gay Christians, their friends, families and the Church have been waiting for.

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I am a straight Christian and I would recommend this book very highly to other Christians. It sheds a lot of light on bible passages that have confused and concerned me to date and it adds personal experience that most of us will never experience any other way. I really hope this book is a catalyst for change.

Justin is to be congratulated for writing so well, in such a balanced and honest way. It makes me sad to read some of his experiences. His lack of bitterness speaks volumes, we see the fruits of the Spirit in people's lives as they grow closer to Jesus.

If we are around for eternity then we need to remain of enquiring mind. People can be wrong for a lifetime. It has made me sad to hear someone talk about their age as an excuse for being unable to change, for not reading this book, and for not being open to new information.

This subject seems to be close to the central part of a person's faith and how much we try to love others above all else. I know atheists whose biggest reason for disliking Christians is their stance towards gay people. This subject is causing tremendous pain and distancing of people from Jesus.

I would like to see Gay people completely accepted by Christians such that celibacy or lack of it can be entirely private between them and God and whoever they wish. We can only strive to know individually whether we are following God's direction in our lives.

We cannot separate ourselves from who we are attracted to, and yet I hear people talk about "hate the sin, love the sinner" which Justin mentions in his book. He concludes we are called to judge our own sin and love other sinners, this seems to me to be key. I personally fail to see how attractions to the same sex can be a sin.
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This book is wonderful. Well-written, moving, and challenging, Justin Lee's story is about growing up as a Southern Baptist Christian and realising he is gay. At times it brought me to tears as he describes how he begged God to take away his feelings, and his experience of ex-gay ministries, before slowly coming to the realisation that he would never be straight. Growing up in Bible Belt America, he is constantly told that you cannot be gay and a Christian, so he feels torn and (unsurprisingly) depressed and even suicidal. (The American name for this book is "Torn", which I think better describes the subject this book tackles.)

Interspersed with his story, he explores what causes people to be gay, the difference between orientation and behaviour, and some Biblical exegesis. It's a huge, difficult, controversial subject, but Lee is not trying to win an argument. This book is about building understanding and overcoming polarisation, and all through the book you get a real sense of Lee's courage, honesty, vulnerability, grace, and above all, his desire to serve God, whatever the cost.

Although Lee's experiences are in Bible Belt America, which is certainly more extreme than the UK (I've not been to a single church that teaches that gay people choose to be gay, or that fails to see the distinction between orientation and behaviour), this is still an issue that is "tearing apart" the church in the UK and giving Christians a bad reputation.

For me personally this book was a breath of fresh air. I have always struggled to reconcile the Bible's seemingly anti-gay stance with the equal rights I so passionately believe in. The gay-vs-Christians debate has long been a stumbling block for me, but as Lee gently demonstrates, it's a false dichotomy.
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I wish I could give this book 6 stars, or even 10! Sometimes when I have read a fiction book I have enjoyed it so much I wished it wouldn't end, and have even started reading it again straight away at the beginning - well, this is pretty well the first time I have ever had this experience with non-fiction! This book is SO wise and discerning, a glorious fusion of honest heartfelt experience with scrupulous scholarship. Whatever your views on the relationship between homosexuality and Christianity, this book will challenge them, whether they are inherited assumptions or what you have always regarded as a clearly thought-out Biblical standpoint. Somehow this readable, relatively short book manages to shed wisdom and light not only on the 'gay-Christian debate' but on dealing with conflict in the Church in general, the future of Christianity in the modern world, and how to interpret Scripture consistently. It's wonderful - and may become seminal. Essential reading.
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The author uses his own poignant story - as a gay man growing up as a committed Christian in a conservative evangelical environment - to address all the things that concern Christians about the gay issue. He deals effectively with specific biblical texts and moves beyond them to offer an approach that results in a genuinely Christ-centred perspective. The author is able to speak from first hand knowledge of the results of 'ex-gay' type approaches and provides many useful examples of the kind of pastoral care needed, but not always offered, to gay people. This book is characterised throughout by a tangible passion to make Christ known, together with a generous Christian graciousness of attitude that has sometimes been in short supply all round in this debate.
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