- Paperback: 224 pages
- Publisher: Cengage Learning (1 Jan. 1980)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0304354295
- ISBN-13: 978-0304354290
- Product Dimensions: 13.9 x 1.9 x 21.6 cm
- Average Customer Review: 49 customer reviews
- Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 233,412 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
Three Shoes, One Sock and No Hairbrush: Everything You Need to Know About Having Your Second Child Paperback – 1 Jan 1980
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A handbook of advice on all aspects of life with a second child. Having two children is different from having one in almost every respect. The book looks at the demanding task of looking after two children, showing parents how to handle the time squeeze, feeling over-stretched, tantrums and confrontations, the complicated dynamic of the threesome, marital disharmony and returning to work.
From the Author
I was very interested to read Amazon readers' reviews and just wanted to respond to those people who thought my book too negative. Research shows that about 50% of second-time parents find it much easier than first time round and about 50% find it much harder. I very much wanted to look at the experiences of those second-time parents who find it harder. Having been there myself, I know how very lonely it can be (especially with the other 50% making you feel such a failure for finding it anything other than a breeze) and, in addition, wanted to write about the experience as honestly as possible. Judging by the testimonies of many of the women I interviewed for the book, as well as letters I've received from readers since, I can only say in response to criticism, that what some readers have found 'negative', others have found deeply reassuring. I guess this just goes to prove that there's as much diversity in our experiences of motherhood as in everything else in life - and thank heavens for that.
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The one comment that stands out from the book was the writer saying that she felt unable to go out without another adult for the first year of her second child's life. I was prepared for this but once I had the baby it just seemed extraordinary - I was at the playpark with my second sleeping in th bjorn within weeks. I didn't feel impeded in that way at all. If you're organised, and you kind of have to be with 2 kids (though the author confesses not to be, in a 'so shoot me' manner), things are much easier.
Overall I'm glad I read the book, I think it really prepared me for my second and I had thought through and prepared for many different aspects of having a second child which perhaps might otherwise have only hit me when they happened. It is informative and intelligent and the fact that it errs on the negative side is not necessarily a bad thing given the subject matter, unless it completely puts you off!
I found the comment that her younger child didn't like a sling to be unhelpful - there's many different types of sling available, and with perseverance and support from friends/sling groups, you can find the one/s that work. I would think that a sling is one of the main ways to be able to care for two children at the same time, as you can have some important 'hands-free' time. And there was no mention (as far as I read, again!) of tandem nursing (both children breastfeeding together), which I am told is one of the times mum can rest as she is meeting both their needs at the same time. It seems to be a very special bonding time for the siblings - it is lovely to see my friend's children holding hands and looking into each other's eyes as they nurse.
Saying all that, there's many things that are true, and many important points raised, and it reads well. Perhaps I should try reading it AFTER I've had a second child - I might find it more meaning in it then! (When I can't go back...)
The book deals with a realistic approach rather than a romantic approach that most of us have about a second child. Especially the advice on age gap is very helpful. I will recommend this to all the mothers who are considering a second child, but want a realistic view.
As the others reviews are so negative about this book I have to say that probably these mothers are not concerned with the majority of women who do face these things described in the book...... I can only say that it is best to be prepared for the worst that way it can only be a better experience.
Rebecca abrams style and experience is a big plus. I read the book in one go.
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