Enter your mobile number or email address below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.

  • Apple
  • Android
  • Windows Phone
  • Android

To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number.

Kindle Price: £7.19

Save £3.80 (35%)

includes VAT*
* Unlike print books, digital books are subject to VAT.

These promotions will be applied to this item:

Some promotions may be combined; others are not eligible to be combined with other offers. For details, please see the Terms & Conditions associated with these promotions.

Deliver to your Kindle or other device

Deliver to your Kindle or other device

They F*** You Up: How to Survive Family Life - Revised and Updated Edition by [James, Oliver]
Kindle App Ad

They F*** You Up: How to Survive Family Life - Revised and Updated Edition Kindle Edition

4.2 out of 5 stars 202 customer reviews

See all 13 formats and editions Hide other formats and editions
Amazon Price
New from Used from
Kindle Edition
"Please retry"
£7.19

Length: 404 pages Word Wise: Enabled

Summer Sale
Choose from over 450 books on sale from 99p. Shop now
Get a £1 reward for movies or TV
Enjoy a £1.00 reward to spend on movies or TV on Amazon Video when you purchase any Amazon Kindle Book from the Kindle Store (excluding Kindle Unlimited, Periodicals and free Kindle Books) offered by Amazon.co.uk. A maximum of 1 reward per customer applies. UK customers only. Offer ends at 23:59 on Wednesday, September 27, 2017. Terms and conditions apply


Product description

Review

Clinical psychologist Oliver James argues that we are shaped far more by nurture than nature and that everything about our adult lives largely depends on our childhood experiences. This explains why siblings can be so unlike each other, and James gives an example of this through interviews with the identical twins Gail and Gillian Blakeney from the TV soap Neighbours who have identical genes but very different psychological profiles. Other more famous celebrity interviewees include Jeffrey Archer and Stephen Fry, and there are fascinating psychobiographies of Woody Allen, Mia Farrow and Prince Charles. However, the main thrust of this highly accessible book is to help us to move forward from being actors in a play scripted by our early childhood history to becoming the author of our own authentic experiences.

Irish Times

`He presents some compelling evidence for his case in this popular
examination of recent research into how we develop'

Product details

  • Format: Kindle Edition
  • File Size: 695 KB
  • Print Length: 404 pages
  • Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing; 1 edition (20 Dec. 2010)
  • Sold by: Amazon Media EU S.à r.l.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B004ISKMBC
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
  • X-Ray:
  • Word Wise: Enabled
  • Enhanced Typesetting: Not Enabled
  • Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars 202 customer reviews
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #84,459 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
  • Would you like to tell us about a lower price?


Customer reviews

Top customer reviews

Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
I think everyone should read this . I wish I'd of read it years ago . It explains a lot about your own childhood and how family life can impact you . If your thinking of having children I'd read this first . From the moment your born it tells you how the way your feed etc affects you .
Comment 4 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Kindle Edition Verified Purchase
I recommend this book to anyone struggling to understand themselves better! Useful but also challenging. I am grateful to the author for what seems to me to be a highly plausible explanation of so many deeply personal family experiences. Wish I had read this book before I became a father, not 22 years later!
Comment 3 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
Intriguing , find out about yourself and have an insight into others. Mums and Dads pay attention !
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
Great books or the great money, very satisfied!
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
Prompt delivery and item as expected.
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
God, this was awful! I'm surprised it's rated so highly. In my mind this book is nothing more than another stick to beat working mothers with (particularly, God forbid, those who choose to put their kids in nursery).

The author begins by saying that this book is not for low income families, 'who couldn't afford to buy it anyway' - not even sure where to begin with that! It's for those parents who have a 'choice' of putting their kids in daycare. The reality in modern life is that many well-off, middle class families (myself included), don't actually have that choice to make.

There's a huge focus on how your own upbringing will affect your parenting (most of which was rubbish - my parents were divorced & I laughed my way through the 'Organisers Reacting to the Divorced Parents' section').

I initially found the concept of 'Huggers' & 'organisers' interesting but the book doesn't provide any tools for supporting either of these parenting styles, the only real message is, if you chose to go back to work, get a family member, or at the very least a nanny, to look after your child or your s/he is doomed.
Comment 3 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Kindle Edition Verified Purchase
If you don't agree with his basic principle of the three types of mothers this book gets tedious. There's a large portion on working mothers or not, and for me this was irrelevant and so I skipped through most of his book. Having read the original they f you up, I was disappointed. Be careful of his criticism of cbt, it does have enormous benefit and is normally a flexible therapy by practitioners these days.
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Kindle Edition Verified Purchase
The research and information is first class, but you have to sift through a lot of info about twins and schizophrenia (which is fine if that is relevant to you) but if not, although interesting, is rather long winded. I think this book either covers too much or needs to be reformatted; perhaps with chapters relating to twin or schizophrenia research, so that you can skip that and get to the part(s) that relate to you.

I feel this is a book more for those studying psychology rather than those of us that want answers to the way we are.
Comment One person found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse

Most recent customer reviews

click to open popover