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Antithetical To Positive Motivation For BDD Recovery.
on 27 June 2011
you will greatly enjoy this book if you are the average reader of ghost-written memoirs from pop stars / big brother stars, or if you are looking for a fairy tale on how an attractive young woman who didn't know it, entered into beauty competitions, and then discovered her beauty.
this is actually a rather upsetting tale of how a young woman's body image disorder drove her mother into pushing her daughter into a series of beauty competitions as a means of recovering from a psychological disorder. the fact that this book is out there as one of the only titles detailing body dysmorphic disorder is extremely troubling on account of the fact that the path the author took is completely contradictory to promoting positive self-image. nobodies self-image should be based on how they are judged in a competition, and certainly not somebody with bdd.
i did not find this to be inspirational: not everybody with bdd can enter into beauty competitions and win - even those who DO can only fit that criteria for a limited amount of time. it is difficult to relate in many of the situations given in this book: the only one i could relate to in my bdd, was the fantasy of being attractive enough to be in such a competition. but we shouldn't feel we have to have our looks validated by anybody in order to be free.
furthermore, even if everyone with bdd COULD win beauty competitions, winning a beauty competition isn't going to cure them of body dysmorphic disorder. recovering from this condition takes going in the direct OPPOSITE direction from things like makeup, which we use to camouflage our perceived flaws.
the images on the sleeve of this book are also disconcerting: a lot of makeup, provocative clothing (she is donning a bikini and a sarong on the back - for a book on bdd, this is not something i feel comfortable taking on the train!), and photoshop. this is more reminiscent of the "perfected" images of women we are confronted with from the media on a daily basis, rather than an image we can realistically look up to.
she should surely be seen wearing no makeup and no glamour as a means of shouting to the world "i don't need this anymore!" - conversely, it appears that these things which characterize the darkest depths of battling with bdd are promoted and used to boost sales rather than given up.
i don't believe that the course of action taken in this book should be promoted to people with this conditions as some kind of wizened path.
i don't suggest reading this if you are battling with bdd, are serious about recovery, and wish to indulge in a memoir from a person who has recovered and can shed light on recovery.