Top critical review
Not Great, There Are Better Books Out There!
on 20 March 2011
I have read 1000's of books on the subject of success, law of attraction, motivation and wealth creation. I have been a business consultant, peak performance advisor and motivational coach for a number of years. As such I have read many good and extremely poor books. This book falls into a category I would label, someone may get use out of the techniques, but there are better books on the market so rated poor.
The book is based upon Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). Now the fact that CBT is involved may ring alarm bells in some people's heads. In my experience CBT may not be suitable for everyone. You have to accept a number of premises to make CBT work for you. I am not personally a great fan of CBT but I tried to read this book from a neutral point of view. My review is somewhat negative because I think there are better and quicker therapies and so more useful books out there.
The book is a 4 week course. It is split into daily readings and somehwat tedious and repetitive exercises. It outlines a, "wide range of exercises that people can do themselves to reduce worrying". Each day, you are asked to do the daily exercises. You also have a chart to elicit your daily responses to worrying and to plot your progress. I found with some of these charts, the questions posed were quite difficult to understand...and I have a degree and 2 Masters degrees. Sometimes I felt the answers the reader gives are not analysed to their relevance to the condition of worrying. If CBT is not for you the exercises may not help at all.
The book is called STOP WORRYING, yet the first thing Ad Kerkhof gets you to do is to worry even more and suggests you can do these exercises on your own at home. OK its a controlled worry for 10 minutes twice a day. There are throughout the introduction, warnings that this type of therapy could make you initially worry even more. For me and in my experience, if a person gets more of what they don't want, without a person guiding them with love and help, they can give up on the process. So a worrier may become initially worse and so may give up on the rest of the book and for me that's why I could not rate this book higher than 2 stars. The theory behind the premise of the book, may be good, but in practical application it may be very difficult to maintain the discipline to stop worrying. Kerkhof also tells the reader that, "If one tackles this seriously, there is a good chance that worrying will be considerably be reduced". So if you are a worrier, things may get initially worse and even if you have the discipline to do the 4 weeks of daily exercises, your worrying may not be completely solved. MMMMMMMMMMMMM??? You must ask yourself the question, is this the type of book I want to use over a 4 week period? If it is buy it, if it isn't then buy something else. To me, this is a book that is written by a theoretician rather than someone with practical hands on experience.
I would recommend some other books that may help a bit more, or are more gentle in their approach. The books I would try before buying this book are Psycho Cybernetics 2000 by Bobbie Summer or read the original version, Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers. Richard Bandlers book Guide to Trance-formation: Make Your Life Great. These titles should help more than this book, if you are an habitual worrier. I would also suggest a good goal setting book or time management book, which could be very useful to a worrier, if their issues involve where is my life going, or feeling swamped by too many things going on a once. If you are one of these type of people, please feel free to email me and I will happily suggest some more good books that may help.
Buy this book if you need daily exercises and are happy using CBT. If you want a faster read, buy the books listed as I feel they will help you feel better quicker.