I have spoken with many family members of homosexuals, and regardless of how accepting, loving, or even liberal they may be, the initial announcement, "I'm gay" is one that can knock you to your knees. I have also heard Anita Worthen speak several times, and her deep love and compassion for her son and for homosexuals in general is so evident. From her heart she writes this practical and compassionate book that is a "must" for any parent reeling from the news that their son or daughter is gay. Discovering this book is often the very first time that a parent or a family member discovers that they are not alone, that others have been there too, and that what they are feeling is normal. Especially helpful are the chapters on the grief cycle-adapted for the family member, and on how to relinquish your loved one and "let go."
This book deals not so much with love, as disguised hate and loathing of homosexuals. While maintaining an appearance as compassionate writers, the recommendations of the authors serve only to perpetuate the notion that gay is "bad", a "choice", and at best, a condition that can be tolerable but must be "cured". The authors are self-proclaimed members of the "ex-gay" movement, a movement that has been denounced by the APA as potentially harmful and destructive to the potential "ex-gay". The authors continue their litany of hate by posing as helpful, caring ministers of Christ, but pursue a discredited methodology which, at its core, subtly undermines the fight for human dignity each gay or lesbian struggles for. This book is a frightening example of how well meaning individuals can irreparably harm another human by insensitive, seemingly uneducated dogmatic approaches to a human situation. It appears the authors have done no more research into the issue of homosexuality other than allow selective passages of the bible rule their intellect and decision making One "brilliant "passage of this "ministry" is taken verbatim from this work: "... Then I came up with the perfect solution: we would kidnap Tony! ... The next day when my son arrived home from school, we loaded all his things into a car and drove him to the airport. Before Tony knew what hit him, he was on his way to Oregon" (page 12) So much for compassion, understanding, and approved methodologies! If you are a reader in search for a book to help you deal with the coming out of a son, daughter, relative, or friend, we recommend this book only as a pure example of "How-Not-To" do it. In our opinion, this collection of biased anecdotes is as backward and ignorant in its approach as the "separate but equal" doctrine espoused by "well-meaning" humans throughout history.