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- Listening Length: 9 hours and 40 minutes
- Program Type: Audiobook
- Version: Unabridged
- Publisher: Dogma Debate, LLC
- Audible.co.uk Release Date: 7 Feb. 2013
- Language: English
- ASIN: B00BCCMN3M
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Sex & God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality Audio Download – Unabridged
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Among its mine of helpful information, and what the author stresses above all else, is that religion (Judaism, Christianity, Islam, Buddhism, Hinduism, etc) is poisonous to your sex life. God and sex don't mix is the message. Sex is better and richer without the feelings of guilt and dirt often associcted with religion. ''Guilt is a key tool by which religion controls people. Guilt impedes effective communication and undermines sexual confidence and enjoyment'' (Alex Comfort, The Joy of Sex). This serious and important lession is constantly played down and ignored in religion, for obvious reasons.
In chapter 2, You can take Religion out of Sex, But you can't take Sex out of Religion, Dr Ray says, ''Religious sexual morality is fundamentally meaningless. Any instruction is largely negative.'' I couldn't agree more! Holy books such as the Bible or the Koran doesn't instruct us in ''ways to give a woman an orgasm.'' The joys of oral sex and the pleasures of masturbation are not important in such books. As Mark Twain ironically observed: ''Of all the delights of this world, man cares most for sexual intercourse. He will go to any lengh for it.Read more ›
Following on from his phenomenal "The God Virus", he tackles the knotty subject of sex. Sex as viewed from a religious standpoint, from a secular standpoint and from the standpoint of a psychologist; Dr. Ray dissects his subject matter in a clear and concise way. He introduces concepts such as the `Toxic Trio' which explains how religions use the guilt cycle in relation to sex; uses a wonderful `button metaphor' to explain how people get locked into religion; explodes some of the myths that religion has built up about sex over the years and yet offers some practical advice on how to break free. He introduces some psychological concepts such as the `50-0-50 model' of what influences personality and asks some very pointed questions, which many religionists would not even consider - and a section on duck sex, too!
However the key message I think this book reveals is that humans are biological creatures with biological drives and to put it simply over religion, biology wins, but the religious mindset can seriously spoil things!
I once asked Dr. Ray about how we could use this book in our discussions with the religious and his reply was to be direct, honest and ask pointed questions (say about the masturbatory habits of their priests and preachers) to expose the hypocrisy of it all.
A perfect read for a long journey at 279 pages of core text plus a comprehensive bibliography to follow up, I was able to read it in two sittings (each way on a transatlantic flight). I commend this book to everyone, religious or not, you may find it helpful on a personal level!
None of the content surprises me, nor do I disagree with the author's viewpoints and conclusions. However, I do find his style and delivery rather annoying. The book is well researched, with plenty of supporting references, but its tone is vaguely patronising instead of incisive. This, most likely, is due to his professional role as a counsellor. The situations and problems it discusses are universal - it is a pity that that he constantly adopts an "America centric" approach. If he opened it up culturally he would have a useful book for people in other continents.
Want to rid yourself of childhood indoctrination about sex. It's going to be difficult but this book will definitely help.
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Fantastic read, with plenty of examples and case studies. A very informative and easy to read material, highly recommended to anyone who's curious about our natural sexual life and... Read morePublished 12 months ago by plinux
Well written and full of useful information backed by scientific research.Published 17 months ago by Aaron Clarke
This is a great read, its not the most polished piece of work, but certainly well researched and very compelling. Read morePublished 18 months ago by georgiarakusen