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Self-Therapy, 2nd Edition Audible Audiobook – Unabridged

Jay Earley (Author), David Baird (Narrator), Pattern System Books (Publisher)
4.6 out of 5 stars 1,222 ratings

A step-by-step guide to creating wholeness and healing your inner child using IFS, a new, cutting-edge psychotherapy.

Understand your psyche in a clear and comprehensive way, and resolve deep-seated emotional issues. Self-Therapy makes the power of a cutting-edge psychotherapy approach accessible to everyone. Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) has been spreading rapidly across the country over the past decade. It is incredibly effective on a wide variety of life issues, such as self-esteem, procrastination, depression, and relationship issues. IFS is also user friendly; it helps you to comprehend the complexity of your psyche. Dr. Earley shows how IFS is a complete method for psychological healing that you can use on your own.

Self-Therapy is also helpful for therapists because it presents the IFS model in such detail that it is a manual for the method.

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  1. Listening Length
    12 hours and 29 minutes
  2. Author
    Jay Earley
  3. Narrator
    David Baird
  4. Audible release date
    26 Jun. 2015
  5. Language
    English
  6. Publisher
    Pattern System Books
  7. ASIN
    B010FX6DKC
  8. Version
    Unabridged
  9. Program Type
    Audiobook
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Product details

Listening Length 12 hours and 29 minutes
Author Jay Earley
Narrator David Baird
Audible.co.uk Release Date 26 June 2015
Publisher Pattern System Books
Program Type Audiobook
Version Unabridged
Language English
ASIN B010FX6DKC
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4.6 out of 5 stars
1,222 global ratings

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Customers find the book's self-therapy method useful, with one noting it demonstrates theory with practical case examples. Moreover, the book is simple to understand and provides thorough descriptions with drawings, making it an accessible introduction to the IFS method. Additionally, customers appreciate the insights, with one describing it as an experiential workbook. However, the writing style receives mixed feedback, with some finding it well written while one customer notes it's difficult to follow.

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12 customers mention ‘Use’10 positive2 negative

Customers find the book's self-therapy method useful, with one customer noting it demonstrates theory with practical case examples.

"Working my way slowly and sporadically through this - thought provoking and helpful." Read more

"...man who clearly is living what he writes and with great empathy, care, wisdom and insight" Read more

"...on how to work on your own or with a therapist – one or two useful new insights – I think I would rather the author had acknowledged Hal and Sidra..." Read more

"Intelligent, accessible, practical, and it works" Read more

7 customers mention ‘Ease of understanding’5 positive2 negative

Customers find the book simple to understand.

"...Self-Therapy is a fantastic, easy-to-read and digest introduction to IFS and I'd recommend it to anyone interested in the therapy...." Read more

"This is a fantastic book. Simple to understand with loads of examples to guide you...." Read more

"...us with home use IFS therapy guide-I find this book to be unduly difficult to follow with extended unnecessary repetitive unrealistic case studies...." Read more

"This book is powerful and easy to follow...." Read more

6 customers mention ‘Description’5 positive1 negative

Customers find the book's descriptions helpful, with one customer noting it provides thorough explanations with drawings, while another mentions it serves as a self-help manual and offers clear instructions on self-therapy.

"Illuminating. Very clear and well written/illustrated" Read more

"...Good detailed chapters on how to work on your own or with a therapist – one or two useful new insights – I think I would rather the author had..." Read more

"This book is powerful and easy to follow. It provides a step by step process in IFS and demonstrates the theory with practical case examples and..." Read more

"...There are thorough descriptions of the ideas with drawings, diagrams and pictures. It also does not pretend everything displayed is easy...." Read more

5 customers mention ‘Insight’5 positive0 negative

Customers find the book insightful, with one mentioning it provides a digest introduction to IFS and another noting it offers an interesting view of the mind.

"A real experiential work book written by a man who clearly is living what he writes and with great empathy, care, wisdom and insight" Read more

"...Self-Therapy is a fantastic, easy-to-read and digest introduction to IFS and I'd recommend it to anyone interested in the therapy...." Read more

"Nice book, well delivered, and an interesting view of the mind. Not immediately easy to understand but worth the effort" Read more

"Very interesting to learn about IFS." Read more

3 customers mention ‘Writing style’2 positive1 negative

Customers have mixed opinions about the writing style of the book.

"Clearly written but very repetitive." Read more

"...gain an overview, and it could do with editing, as the writing style is difficult to follow, and pictures repetitive...." Read more

"Illuminating. Very clear and well written/illustrated" Read more

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  • Graham Mummery
    5.0 out of 5 stars Using the Creative Immagination to Heal
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 31 July 2019
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    I was recommended this book as an introduction to a therapeutic technique known as IFS (Internal Family Systems) devised by the therapist Richard Schwartz. This draws and develops on ideas from the likes of Jungian Psychology, Gestalt, Psychosynthesis and John Rowan taking them in a new direction. Readers aware of the concepts of sub-personalities and visualisation will be on home ground.

    Yet for all that, many therapists will find what is on show in this book will be useful in dealing with resistances to healing. If this is strange to some, it is something that often happens in therapy. It is, as Jungian analyst Donald Kalsched amongst others, a part of the psyche often protecting another part from further suffering. In IFS these parts are named protectors and exiles, and they manifest as personalities. For my money this is the best book I have come across about resistances and how to deal with them.

    One of the thing that gives this credence is the way the author Jay Earley approaches his matter. There are thorough descriptions of the ideas with drawings, diagrams and pictures. It also does not pretend everything displayed is easy. Indeed there are sections on how to deal with some difficulties The book itself is structured as a self-help manual with pointers to work books that the interested reader can download to follow and structure the exercises contained in the book, together in with the reminder that it may be necessary to work these with a trained therapist.

    Taken as a whole it is hard to think that a book like this could be better prepared. As a therapist, I have used some of these exercises both on myself and other clients. This is both a fascinating and useful book for therapists and general readers alike. I will be exploring further other books by this author and of course the aforementioned Richard Schwartz.
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  • KH
    5.0 out of 5 stars Goes deep
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 26 May 2020
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    I ordered this book as an intro to IFS after reading The Body Keeps The Score.
    Self-Therapy is a fantastic, easy-to-read and digest introduction to IFS and I'd recommend it to anyone interested in the therapy. My only criticism is that it gets you to start working with protectors very early - too early for me - and that the explanation of Self is too brief. Other than those two points, this book is brilliant. I find IFS to be the most compassionate, loving and accepting therapy I have ever encountered - it feels like coming home.
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  • Renato S.
    5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing book that helps you to find your true self
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 21 May 2019
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    Is a great book for guiding you step by step to finding the real and TRUE SELF.
    I highly recommend it to anyone how wants to find and be themselves compered to other self help books systems they are out there till now because I tried some of them and they only teaching people how to control our inner world which is only for sort terms and IFS teaches us how to make peace and Harmony with our inner self and have long lasting happiness and joy:-) with ourselves, everyone and everything around us.
    Thank you.
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  • Customer
    4.0 out of 5 stars Very useful but difficult to follow
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 15 March 2022
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    Whilst I truly appreciate the author’s wish to provide us with home use IFS therapy guide-I find this book to be unduly difficult to follow with extended unnecessary repetitive unrealistic case studies. I doubt whether any patient would come to react as depicted, so clearly a learning tool that seems false and lacking. The book is useful, but to gain an overview, and it could do with editing, as the writing style is difficult to follow, and pictures repetitive. I am really grateful for the author’s attempt to teach us a useful self therapy method, but returning to choose another book covering the same topic as struggling to move on with this one
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  • J. M. Donlon
    5.0 out of 5 stars Love this book
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 8 June 2018
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    A real experiential work book written by a man who clearly is living what he writes and with great empathy, care, wisdom and insight
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  • noreen
    5.0 out of 5 stars Fantastic book
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 9 August 2021
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    This book is powerful and easy to follow. It provides a step by step process in IFS and demonstrates the theory with practical case examples and clear instructions on self-therapy.
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  • Mari
    5.0 out of 5 stars really works
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 19 November 2013
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    This is a fantastic book. Simple to understand with loads of examples to guide you. However I feel a personal psychotherapist advisable while working through the book to ensure the mind remains safe throughout the process. It does open up some stuff you might not have noticed before. I also feel, to benefit fully, you would need to do regular mindfulness, for body awareness. I have found it to be life changing.
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  • Jack Wolfe Frost
    3.0 out of 5 stars Jumps in too fast
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 5 January 2015
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    It's a good book, but perhaps over-simplifies IFS therapy. My main criticism though is that the book has you doing exercises before it has told you the whole IFS model; which for some people like me can potentially be harmful. I would recommend getting the IFS book by the founder of the IFS model, Dr Richard Schwartz first where the IFS model is explained much more clearly and only then reading this book and doing the exercises when you actually know what you are working with.
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  • Kindle Customer
    5.0 out of 5 stars Clear and well organized
    Reviewed in France on 9 November 2018
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    I'm giving a five stars both to the IFS therapy and this book. It is very well formatted. There are many repetitions but they never feel like too much. On the contrary, they really drive home the concepts. I've read the second volume and it is a very useful addition to this one.
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  • Amazon Customer
    5.0 out of 5 stars We All IHave Inner Families and Need to Learn to All Our Parts
    Reviewed in Canada on 8 January 2017
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    We are, all of us, made up of many different parts or "sub personalities." In "Self Therapy" the author presents the work of Richard Schwartz. The book is intended to guide readers through understanding how our different parts can cause problems when they perceive themselves as "protectors" guarding child parts they believe need protecting. By getting to know our parts, we can help them understand that their attempts to keep us safe are counter productive. The approach is benign, urging compassion for ourselves and our parts.

    The book is meant as do-it-yourself therapy, although the author advises that situations may arise in working through the book that would indicate the need for professional help.
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  • Kindle Customer
    5.0 out of 5 stars Complete guide to wholeness
    Reviewed in India on 15 June 2022
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    An eye opening book. A must read. I feel blessed to encounter this book. Thankyou so much for this amazing book.😇
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  • D. Dunn
    5.0 out of 5 stars High quality book
    Reviewed in the United States on 24 January 2013
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    I think the book is excellent - I've already recommended it to numerous people. Internal Family Systems is the best thing I'm come across in the psych world in the course of reading a fair number of psych books in my 44 years, and this book by Earley does a great job of explaining it.

    IFS is not the simplest thing in the world to explain in writing, yet the book nails it by combining clear illustrations, good organization and thoughtful writing. It also has numerous exercises you can do yourself. And a section of tips on doing IFS with a partner, and on working with a therapist.

    The book is written to be accessible to the general public, which is the only broad-based introductory IFS book I know of yet that is in good measure written for the public (i.e. not written for therapists). It's largely written for the person who will be going through therapy or wants to practice IFS on their own or with a partner. I think even having the awareness of the concepts and info will help most people, even if they don't do the exercises.

    The great thing about the above is it gives IFS a better chance of making a bigger impact on the world than is possible simply through therapists. There are only so many therapists, and only some know much IFS and relatively few have been trained in it, or are now slated to be trained.

    Besides letting more people do it on their own, I think IFS therapists in general will benefit from it because I think a good number of people who read it and find IFS appealing will at some point in the upcoming years of their life will go to an IFS therapist to experience the added benefits of therapy or tackle harder things that need a therapist. Kind of like how the Grateful Dead became the highest grossing tour band in the U.S. because they let people record their concerts and share copies for free. More people got copies of the music, liked it and then went to concerts, bought t-shirts and bought CDs. The more people who are introduced to IFS through books like this, the more the average IFS therapist will have people knocking on their door looking to do it.

    One small note is that while the tagline of the book mentions "healing your inner child," my impression is that according to IFS and to the author (Earley) and my own experience of myself, most people are healing several inner parts of themselves, including some adult parts that are not serving them well. While I don't care about sub-titles, I thought I would mention the above to clarify in case it's needed for anyone that this is not some half-baked new age book talking only about healing an inner child. As the first half of the tagline conveys, IFS works with all parts of our personality, and tries to get all aspects of who we are more healthy to better serve us. Healing the childish parts of us that are often unconscious is certainly an important part of the process, and the book is a multi-dimensional approach to those parts and other parts of who we are.

    In case you haven't heard of IFS, it is a respected psychological system and is used primarily by licensed therapists and clinics, and recommended by many respected leaders in the field. The founder of it was the co-author of one of the best selling textbooks on marriage and family therapy used by universities, and who taught at one of the top schools in the country. It's not a passing fad and not a new-age gimmick with the aim of selling books. IFS is not family therapy - Schwartz used the systematic thinking common in family therapy to discover that we have our own internal set of sub-personalities or parts that combine to form who we are. Often some of the parts are on track and some are not, and need some assistance from us in coming to serve us better.

    The book focuses on how you can learn what the parts of yourself are, how they operate, and how you can help them learn and mature to become better at serving you. Doing so takes time. Don't expect to read this book or any book, and have easy answers or have most things figured out just like that. It takes ongoing time and attention. My guess is that most people will need to read the book again in a year and delve deeper in the second time.

    Overall, the writing in Self-Therapy is lucid and understandable, without dumbing down. I think the book would also be helpful to therapists looking for a strong intro to IFS, or to therapists who know some about IFS and want to know more. When you consider that the founder Richard Schwartz was able to help a lot of people when he first started doing IFS, and it was only part-way developed when he first started doing it and he had no book with lots of details explaining it to help him, I would assume that a high quality therapist could read this book and begin using some of the concepts in their practice.

    If you click on my profile, you'll see that I'm a real person, and that I give things poor ratings as well as good ones, and that I don't often give something such a strong review.

    If you stumbled across this book while surfing the net, I strongly recommend you plop down the small cost to get it. It might well change your life. And at the least, I think almost all people will get at least $15 of value from it, enough to be worth the cost. It's very rare that I find a book I can say that about.
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  • Anton
    5.0 out of 5 stars Un libro eccellente(piu' completo) di (auto)terapia
    Reviewed in Italy on 17 January 2014
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    Questo libro svela, in modo magistrale, una tecnica
    modernissima di autoterapia.
    Un libro molto consigliato a chi si vuole accingere per una autoterapia completa
    veloce ed efficiente.
    Peccato che non include le moderne tecniche ipnotiche(autoipnotiche)
    complementari che potrebbero rendere molto piu' efficiente il
    processo di analisi comprensione e sintesi del programma terapeutico.
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