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Practical Exercises for Men in Recovery of Same-Sex Attraction (SSA) Paperback – 15 Mar 2011

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  • Paperback: 132 pages
  • Publisher: Phelan Consultants, LLC; 1 edition (15 Mar. 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0977977307
  • ISBN-13: 978-0977977307
  • Product Dimensions: 20.3 x 0.8 x 25.4 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 2.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 1,865,976 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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About the Author

James E. Phelan received his doctorate degree in Psychology (Psy.D) from the Southern California University for Professional Studies and his master's degree in Social Work (MSW) from Marywood University. Jim is a Board Certified Diplomate in Clinical Social Work (BCD) and Internationally Certified Alcohol & Drug Counselor (ICADC). He is a Psychotherapist Associate to the American Psychoanalytic Association, Mental Helath Affiliate to the National Association for the Advancement of Psychoanalysis, and Scientific Advisory Member to the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH).

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Not everyone who identifies as gay wants to be so, and with the unscientific anti-change lobby being so vocal it is hard for those who find the homosexual lifestyle unhealthy and empty (something that research shows is more common than the homosexual lobby will admit) the ways of getting out are becoming harder to find. This book will not be for everyone but is a needed resource by a well trained and experienced therapist.

Edited having spoken with people who have used the workbook to a five star review. Yes, this book will not be for everybody (especially those like Dr Jessen who want to ridicule change but not attempt it) but for those who cannot find a professional therapist who is willing to work with them this book is a superb tool to get started with as it is based, unlike Gay Affirmative Therapy, on sound and tested psychological principles which have been shown - aside from the biased writings of the pro-gay lobby via APA section 44 and others - to be safe and effective (according to research published in peer reviewed journals and accepted by the wider APA membership).

Do not let comments about bigotry and "internalised homophobia" put you off. No professional mental health body recognises internalised homophobia as a condition or concept and, as research keeps showing, it is not society that causes mental health problems amongst the homosexuality community ([...]). Change is possible and this may be the tool to help you if you want to.
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This can only serve to reinforce internalised homophobia. A damaging, detrimental and offensive book. How can Amazon allow such blatant discriminatory material to be sold on their site. I have today written a complaint.
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Complete and Utter Rubbish! Should not be allowed on Amazon in my opinion.
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19 of 30 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0x91705ad4) out of 5 stars A much needed, excellent workbook 26 Mar. 2011
By Amy Capella - Published on
At a time when the PC Nazis are trying to control our every word, not to mention our every thought, James E. Phalen's book may seem, at first glance, to be anachronistic. His workbook for men who are unhappy with their homosexuality or bisexuality will certainly be offensive to those in the Gay Rights Movement. However, to those who are gay and bisexual and do not want to be, his book provides some rare and welcome support. The Gay Rights Movement has tried to ban psychotherapy for men who want to change from gay or bisexual to straight; I think that is reverse discrimination, and so does James Phelan. He has put together a very practical workbook that guides men who have an unwanted same sex attraction. The book begins with some questionnaires to help men better understand their sexuality, then goes on to provide an array of fill-in-the-blank forms and exercises to help readers find a mentor, figure out how they allow others to violate their boundaries, assess their current sexual behavior, explore childhood influences, forgive those who have been harmful, and understand primary relations with father, mother, sister, brother. It also helps men get in touch with and understand their feelings, including anger, sadness and shame, and points the way toward resolution through the use of guided imagery, diary writing and other exercises. The appendix contains suggested readings and other helpful resources. I tried some of the exercises myself and found them illuminating, even though I don't have have unwanted same-sex desires. This is a brave book that goes against the current PC trend and offers much needed guidance to the hundreds of thousands of men who are having a hard time finding support for their cause. If you are one of them, I highly recommend this book.
2 of 3 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0x92f35984) out of 5 stars Helpful. 3 Sept. 2015
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Actually, it is quite helpful despite the biased negative comment.
5 of 11 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0x9170766c) out of 5 stars Ridiculous, Dangerous Pseudoscience... 13 Aug. 2014
By S. W. Helms - Published on
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This book is full of some of the most dangerous pseudo-science on the topic of homosexuality ever printed. The incestuous relationship between the major players in the anti-gay "Gay Conversion Therapy" movement is as obvious as it is laughable. N.A.R.T.H. founder Joseph Nicolosi and Exodus International President Alan Chambers (who recently denounced these practices and apologized for his group's involvement) are quoted, with plenty of product placement by Richard Cohen (do an Internet search for his "Holding Therapy" for a good laugh).

The "Practical Exercises" in this book include keeping a masturbation diary, drawing pictures of your "gay self" and your "straight self," and repeated suggestions that what they refer to as "Same-Sex Attractions" are created by a father who was distant and uncaring toward you, as well as a mother who was too close and protective (the opposite for women, of course). None of this has been taken seriously by psychologists or other mental health professionals for over a century.

Also troubling is the persistent religious theme found throughout the book; reputable psychotherapists leave their own religious and/or spiritual beliefs on the other side of their office door, allowing the client to decide whether such beliefs are relevant to her or his progress. The weaving of spirituality in this tome leaves one with the distinct impression that it's contents are only an extension of the "pray the gay away" tactics used by earlier groups in the 1970s.

Buy this only USED, and only as an archival example of what can go wrong when ideology supplants science in the struggle to deal with a society becoming more and more open to diversity in sex and sexual orientation.
6 of 14 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0x91705db0) out of 5 stars Don't waste your money 19 Mar. 2014
By A J Nash - Published on
I'm a therapist. I can't believe that in the 21st century with the amount of knowledge the scientific community has accumulated there are still people telling you you can force a change in your sexuality. It's widely regarded as unethical to tell anyone their sexuality can be changed either by having therapy or by reading a book.
6 of 15 people found the following review helpful
HASH(0x921ae390) out of 5 stars Debunked hogwash. 21 Mar. 2014
By esanta - Published on
79 de-gaying exercises to help your recovery from same sex attraction. Here are a few examples...
Exercise 27: keep a masturbation diary.
Exercise 56: write a good bye letter to your same-sex attraction.
Exercise 58: draw yourself as a gay person, then as a straight person.

While I do understand that there are plenty of people who, due to ignorance and religious brainwashing, believe that one's sexual orientation can be changed, I must admit being puzzled that anyone could thing these silly exercises could help.

Bottom line, no matter what you call it, "recovery of same-sex attraction," "ex-gay therapy," this is all utter nonsense that is denounced by the entire mental health profession as being not only useless, but also very dangerous and damaging to people.
Even the founders of "Exodus International," the leading "ex-gay" organization, came out and denounced their practices as worthless and nefarious (although they haven't returned the massive amounts of money they collected from their victims)

This book would be funny if it weren't such an absolute disgrace and wasn't one of the tools used by bigots to inflict pain and misery on gullible, trusting people. Avoid at all costs.
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