My Life as a Wife: Love, Liquor and What to Do About Other Women Paperback – 25 Apr 2013
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Wonderfully wise and moving memoir ... This is a book suffused with love - of food, family, and of a clearly charismatic man. It is the story of a life with an epic sweep ... This is some woman; this is some life (Scotsman)
A brilliantly funny yet moving memoir (Daily Mail)
Elisabeth Luard, serious contender for Greatest Living Food Writer ... writes books that are fiercely intelligent but without preachiness, deliciously pragmatic and laced with humour ... exploring food, family and grief with equal frankness (Daily Telegraph)
[Luard] joins a line of inspiring cooks who write about the everyday necessity of food as the ultimate refuge from the harsh reality of death (The Times)
There are many things in the book to enjoy, not the least the recipes which accompany each chapter. Elisabeth's account of her childhood is amusingly dreadful and her portrait of Miriam Rothschild is a minor masterpiece (Carolyn Hart Telegraph)
Luard calls this "a love story with flaws" and I admire her for not trying to put a rosy glow on what sounds like a difficult marriage
(Lynn Barber Telegraph)
She writes movingly, too, of the death of her journalist daughter, Franscesca ... There is a lot of pain in My Life as a Wife, but overall it is a celebration of life, second nature to a professional cook and lover of food (Gerald Jacobs Jewish Chronicle)
A story of laughter and hope as well as sadness - the healing power of children, the comfort of the kitchen table, the delight of good food and the simple joy of making life work - written by a woman of spirit.See all Product Description
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The writing is a bit breathy and disjointed, as though it was dictated - not what I had expected, as I normally enjoy her columns. No one can deny that she has led a very eventful life, firstly as the step-child of a diplomat, then as the wife of Nicholas Luard. Lots of juicy name-dropping too. In writing about other countries, and often the food, she is excellent, but for the first half of the book she is so naive I WANTED TO SHAKE HER!!!!!
Of an earlier generation, she took her marriage vows seriously, but appears to have worn blinkers as well, not even guessing what her husband was up to. Maybe that attitude was common then - certainly not now. I would have awarded 3 stars for the book .....
BUT.... I was moved to tears by the passages in which she describes his long, slow death after years of alcohol abuse. Every alcoholic should read these passages while they still have time for recovery, or pray that they have such supportive spouses. This part is worthy of 5 stars.
She loved her husband, enjoyed him for who he was, and stood by him without counting either the women or the empties (the latter is her admission). Overall, a fascinating picture of a marriage.
It tells of her marriage to a man with a drink problem, whom she described as more a demolisher than a builder! He seemed to do as he pleased, she loved him throughout. She may have been born upper class but she did not have the upper hand. I applauded her tolerance and her ability to write with honesty, warts and all.
The book's title is accurate, it deals with her time as a wife. She declares her love for her husband - and this was presumably the bond that gave her the resolve to remain married through more apparent downs that ups. And this for me was the problem in the telling of Ms. Luard's story. From the start of their marriage, she says nothing of any good things her husband Nicholas may have contributed to her life. Instead, she details one problem after another for which he was responsible (from serial philandering and reckless drinking to repeated absences and a dilettante approach to earning a living and providing for his family). Surely there must have been some, providing a counterbalance to the repeated challenges he threw her way. And if there were none, then her reasons for remaining tethered, often in name only to Mr. Luard, are unclear, especially given her strength of character and clear vision so palpable throughout her narrative.
I eagerly began the postscript thinking this will be where she addresses my questions and gives some insight into the love for and from her husband; a summary of that life as a wife. But it deals with other things and she simply notes she spread her husband's ashes after his death among trees at their home in Wales, and if he was unhappy with this memorial, the trees will not prosper.
I suppose if it had been a happy marriage the book may have been a bit dull. It wasn't dull, as such, though the name dropping got a bit tiresome. But I suppose if all your friends are well-known then there's not much you can do about that.
I think some things may have been meant to be funny - the Christine Keeler incident and the au pair incident and the Madeleine incident. Personally I found it all very dreary and depressing. What can you say about a man who lets his wife have four children interspersed with several miscarriages and a stillbirth while having a fine old time with half the women in London and lots of drunken mates? Nothing good.
And then when he was ill because he was drinking himself to death back he comes to be looked after by her.
Her life, her choice to stick with him. I just don't know why she did.
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