JOY OF LETTING WOMEN DOWN Hardcover – 24 Oct 2000
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Why do women fall for the womaniser?
The short answer is: because it's fun. The sub-title of this book is:'Secrets of the Worshipped Male.' Have you ever wondered why the womaniser is never short of willing women? Or why, regardless of feminism, women of every age, background and status are still drawn to him like moths to a candle, knowing they'll get burned? It has always been so and it hasn't changed. Having been personally involved with several 'Worshipped Males' , and also known many women with similar experiences, I wrote and illustrated this book to shed some humorous light on the subject, without being judgemental and certainly not anti-male. I'm hoping that men who behave like my 'Worshipped Male' character will see themselves and laugh, and wince! And that women who are, or have been, addicted to them will also laugh and realise that humour can save them from their misery.
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The rules of war change over time, same with the battle of the sexes. Do men have the advantage? Should they be made to fight with one hand tied behind their backs? "The Joy of Letting Women Down" reminds us that Nature is unfair. Should women get angry, get even? No, we should all laugh together, as Natalie D’Arbeloff decided to do, having been “an expert on the subject … for most of her adult life who doesn’t regret a minute of it”. And so she produced what must be the funniest illustrated book of the century to date. Its publication made little impact when it came out. Never mind, there’s never been a better time than today for a lighter view of this age-old topic.
A blurb on the wrapper calls it a “politically incorrect but otherwise totally accurate manual”. Accurate, yes: not biased for or against feminism. “Manual”? Yes, it’s addressed to the would-be womaniser man, revealing the secrets of how to get away with maintaining a bevy of females bound to you helplessly by lust and jealousy. It warns him of enemies, both male and female, who never cease to plot his comeuppance. It helps him organize his business and pleasure—and mix the two! It enlightens him on how to juggle relationships with wife, regular lovers and casual encounters, while minimizing threats to himself.
I’m sure there are many types of man, but she deals with two: the Worshipped Male (WM) and the Reliable Male (RM). Women are allured by the WM hoping he’ll morph into an RM. Good luck with that. Meanwhile the available RMs bewail their lack of allure. They struggle to find one woman to see them as a god. I guess there are women too who wait for a man some day to worship them, but but it has no help to offer in that sad situation.
What then is it? Funny for sure, but too honest and clear-eyed to play for mere laughs. She accepts that the unfairness is built-in. If I may paraphrase: our species has evolved to produce two kinds of men: conquerors and plodders. Women evolved as nest-builders and nurturers; some have that single goal from childhood, others remain wide-eyed, with antennae that twitch at the approach of high-achieving sperm-bringers (=conquerors). Of course this is over-simplified, as the author duly warns in her Introduction:
'Sweeping statements will be made throughout the book.'
We must face the fact that evolution has no moral rules. That’s where society’s norms come into play, setting bridle and reins upon our genetic inheritance, which is unlikely to mutate radically any time soon. Accordingly, "The Joy" doesn't make judgement, there's enough of that about. It helps us see and understand.
The writing is well enhanced by inventive illustrations sprinkled liberally so we never get more than two pages of text without being entertained by little naked cartoon figures, so expressive in features and gesture. One's reminded of some of the best children’s books written and illustrated by the same person, such as St Exupery’s "Little Prince"; Beatrix Potter’s "Tale of Peter Rabbit". Of course, "The Joy" is squarely aimed at adults, but I could imagine children, made curious by puberty, learning things about adulthood their parents might be in no position to admit. She’s not really leading anyone astray, just opening our eyes to what is.
Will it turn any innocent male into a libertine, Don Juan, Lothario? An interesting question. It’s certainly not intended as a self-help book, but framed as a treatise to aid the Worshipped Male in his quest “to get away with it”. As the blurb says:
"Have you ever wondered why the womaniser is never short of willing women? Natalie D’Arbeloff reveals, for the first time ever, all the carefully guarded secrets of the worshipped male."
It’s not my task to reveal those secrets here. You’ll have to read all 160 pages in order to find out. I was amazed to discover the journey was never a chore, always a joy.
We all know a good cartoonist not only puts us in stitches but also provides insights into our behavior on par with the best philosophers. Natalie d'Arbeloff's cartoons and ironic comments about women and men are the funniest I have read in a decade.
"Do you still cling to that old myth about the male of the species being randier than the female? If so wake up to the truth: Women are not only randier than men but female lust, when directed at a WM (Worshipped Man) is far more intense and long-lasting than the male's."
Want to know how to be a worshipped male with randy women waiting in line? Want to avoid such men? This tongue-in-cheek, devastatingly wicked and accurate manual on how to develop worshipable sex appeal, will provide every male (even the most machismo-deficient) with new insights on how to attract women who love to worship men. And it just might help women avoid the type before it is too late.
This is must reading for any male longing to be worshipped... By giving away the secret techniques of the Worshipped Male, d'Arbeloff provides the necessary tools for any woman (or man) to avoid falling under his spell.
"Womanizer, philanderer, adulterer, libertine, rake, roué, lecher, bed-hopper, fornicator, profligate, lady killer. According to rumour, the above are a dying species if not actually extinct. No self-respecting woman wants to be seen dead with one of these dinosaurs of a by-gone phallocentric ages".
So why is the Womanizer never short of willing women? Why does the Adulterer make whoopee with adulteresses, the Philander with the Philanderines and the Rake with rakettes?...
Reviewed by U.S. reader, Mike Pedretti
He quoted an excellent quote from the book which inspired me to want to read the rest myself. To my disappoint the passage he quoted was the ONLY good passage in there, for me at least.
The pics are quite unique and have a charm to them and it's generally a fun easy read.
I could imagine this being a good buy for an over the hill sex any the city type 'modern' women to have leave around on one of her tables so when friends came to visit they could have a laugh from it.
Most helpful customer reviews on Amazon.com
The main concept is that of the worshipped male, and the pattern of behaviour that leads women to become addicted to this male archetype. Natalie breaks all men down into two categories-- worshippable males and reliable males--then explores the differences, and why woman, despite their best judgment, always fall for the former, but only settle for the latter.
Though candid, there was a tinge of bitterness in each paragraph, giving me the impression that this may be a less-than-objective view of the topic; however, what study of male-female relationships can ever really be totally unbiased when all studies are done by members of either one gender or the other?
What did I walk away with after reading this book? I know for some, the concepts discussed will be eye-opening, to put it mildly, while others, especially worshipped males (whether they know that's what they are or not) will find much of it painfully obvious. For me, it triggered a lot of introspection. Clearly, many "worshipped males" exhibit destructive behaviour. Yet, there are aspects of the worshipped male that women find irrestible and addictive. Is it possible to bridge these two archetypes and become the "mostly worshipped, somewhat-reliable male", thus leading a semi-normal life?