- Paperback: 256 pages
- Publisher: Workman Publishing (16 May 2002)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0761123695
- ISBN-13: 978-0761123699
- Product Dimensions: 15.2 x 1.9 x 22.9 cm
- Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars See all reviews (50 customer reviews)
- Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 23,747 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
The Introvert Advantage (How To Thrive In An Extrovert World) Paperback – 16 May 2002
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About the Author
Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D., is a researcher, educator, author, and psychotherapist. One of America s foremost authorities on introversion, she speaks and leads workshops on the topic in the United States and Canada. She and her extroverted husband have two grown daughters and four grandchildren. They live in Portland, Oregon.
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Whereas "Quiet" left me feeling uplifted and ready to take on the world "The Introvert Advantage" once again convinced me that my introverted temperament was a serious handicap that i could, at best, learn to accept. The slightly condescending, self help, love yourself as you are, tone of the book generally annoyed me but where Laney lost me for good was the part about energy conservation. I am an engineer and, though I don't claim to be an expert, know the fundamentals of thermodynamics. Entropy is not "Fussy energy" that can be un-fuzzed by going for a quiet stroll. The lack of "energy" we introvert feels after socializing is not the same as actual physical energy as in heat or motion and i don't understand why she would try to make that connection. The author might only have intended to use the explanation of thermodynamics as a metaphor but it does make me wonder how well founded the rest of the "Science" in this book is.
The book is not without merits. If you have already bought it, good for you. If you haven't, read "Quiet" instead. If you have already read "Quiet" i would not recommend reading this book.
I believe that every introvert should give this a read and treat it like a Bible, especially those who are unsure about their own introversion, that do not understand it fully, or feel it is like some sort of mental illness. This book will help you understand yourself and make you feel good about yourself. It does have a lot of helpful tips to those new to the subject; but those confident in their introversion may want to read more advanced books.
Just like the back cover says, it really is filled with a lot of "A-ha!" moments. I would reccomend it to any introvert!
There was a lot I didn't know before reading this book. For example, the author explains the neurological differences between intro and extroverts - extroverts relying on the well-known neurotransmitter dopamine, and introverts relying on the lesser-known acetrycholine. She also explains that there are structural differences in our brains and that introverts use their frontal lobes more than extroverts, a logical explanation for our careful planning and "think before you speak" attitude. The author also highlights bias in studies that have been designed to "prove" that extroverts are happier. She points out that the studies (presumably designed by extroverts) only asked questions such as "I like to be with others" and "I'm fun to be with" rather than how introverts would define happiness - "I'm comfortable in my own skin", "I'm free to pursue my own path".
I gave the book four, rather than five stars because I didn't really find the "advice" part useful. She does give some useful advice, such as polite excuses for avoiding company, but I found other bits patronising such as in the "Introvert Survival Kit" at the end of the book, where she instructs us to carry umbarellas "in case the sun bothers you" and a colourful ski headband "in case the wind hurts your ears". I'm an academic, not a hitchhiker!
Other than my last criticism, the book was very well-written. Much recommended!
If you even slightly suspect that you are an introvert I highly recommend reading this book. You will feel much better about yourself, even if you didn't feel badly to begin with!
Conversely, I will recommend the book to people with low self-esteem. While reading the book, you will never feel that it is too technical or advanced for you, and the book manages to really describe make introspection into something extremely positive, providing the reading with numerous assurances along the lines of "there is nothing wrong with being quiet." As mentioned before, the text is peppered with numerous examples from life situations and it even features personal development exercises.
A final positive thing about the book is that it indirectly introduces the part of psychology that deals with personality and typology. The reader can be told that other people do not necessarily think and act like one yourself and perhaps prime the reader for a further exploration of psychological type. Yet the book does provide some food for thought and hopefully the reader will be able to come away from it with a slightly more nuanced picture of other people and with the courage to explore the diverse literature that exists within the field of typology and psychological type.
But what was actually the advantage of being an introvert? Marti Olsen Laney neglects to give us an answer and lets the question remain, hanging in the ether.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
The book was great to understand the differences.
And knowledge puts lots of light.
I recommend this book for the parents, lovers, professionals not only for intros but... Read more
A revelation as each aspect practically described myself. Also realised why I am so different from my mother and why I will never be like her. Read morePublished 7 months ago by Quiltbee
Excellent book, eye opening about both introverts and extroverts in so many ways.Published 8 months ago by SarahR
Party a self-help book, but with very good ideas for the introverts to know temselves.Published 15 months ago by María
Brilliant book and extremely helpful. Well written and have recommended it.Published 17 months ago by Amazon Customer
An extremely interesting book! I first bought it on Audible but I enjoyed it so much that I had to have a hard copy too. Read morePublished 18 months ago by Phyllis McA