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How Not to Be a Perfect Mother: The International Bestseller by [Purves, Libby]
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‘This book is a great antidote to the prevailing tendency to make a science of everything, even the most natural things, like raising children. Libby Purves has faith in people. As you read her book, your faith in yourself comes flooding back.’ Amazon reader, 2002

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WHICH ARE YOU?

Perfect mothers

smile serenely

run immaculate homes

make nappies into kites

read books on Child Development

never raise their voices

Real mothers

have food on their jumpers

never finish anything

limp from treading on Sticklebricks

read romantic novels on the quiet

squeak with exhaustion

With sparkling humour and a low cunning born of four years spent catching food before it hits the floor, Libby Purves shows that even the most unpromising madonna can survive the years of looking after babies and toddlers.
Full of down-to-earth tips and hilarious anecdotes, this is a battle-manual for the mother on the front line – going from pregnancy to pre-schoolers, and taking in sibling fights, fraught outings, nannies and careers along the way.

Drawing on her own experience of domestic havoc with two babies, and on the wit and wisdom of fifty like-minded mothers, Libby Purves shamelessly describes how to cut the corners and bend the rules which never mattered much anyway. 'How Not to Be a Perfect Mother' is an invaluable guide to being an imperfect mother and enjoying it.


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  • Format: Kindle Edition
  • File Size: 2740 KB
  • Print Length: 242 pages
  • Publisher: Thorsons (28 Jun. 2012)
  • Sold by: Amazon Media EU S.à r.l.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B008CBD66E
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Word Wise: Enabled
  • Screen Reader: Supported
  • Enhanced Typesetting: Enabled
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars 47 customer reviews
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #209,418 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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This is the kind of book that I imagine was great when it was first published, but felt too out-of-date to me to really resonate with my experience of motherhood.

It's very readable and there were odd bits that made me laugh aloud, but overall it is a book of tips and advice - I think I'd been hoping more for a book that would be cathartic with its humour. Lots of advice was probably refreshing honest and even radical in places when it was first published but feels quite mainstream now e.g.in the toddler section, you'll find suggestions to use distraction to head off unwanted behaviour, to buy toys from jumble sales, and to do potty training in the summer . Much has changed since the book was written (in the 1980s?). For example, a fair chunk of the book is about childcare and returning to work, and it all focused on nannies and child minders with no mention of nurseries. The author did an update in 2004, but ultimately, the experience of being a mother has changed so much since then in terms of the pressures, issues and so on, that I don't think it can hope to hit the mark in the way that it probably did originally.
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One day I am going to write to Ms Purves and claim a share of her royalties for this book. I found it by chance when about four months pregnant fourteen years ago; it is with me still as a "never lend" - but I have bought any number of copies for friends and family. I can vouch for the fact that it has cheered up the depressed, encouraged the weary, and amused all.
Yes I suppose it is dated in some respects. However, there are some principles of motherhood that do not change, and what I especially enjoyed about this book was its essential subversiveness, compared with the terrible guilt trips offered by the middle class bible thumpers.... At the time, this was the only book I came across that even contemplated the possibility that a mother might want to go out to work - or have to - and offered moral support and practical advice instead of disapproval.
I can thoroughly recommend the two subsequent books as well; my children are a year or two younger than Ms Purves', and I am still hoping for the one about teenagers....
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I absolutely loved this book, which Purves wrote in response to her misgiving about other parenting books available when she had her children which appeared to apply rigid theory or demand perfection. Based on her interviews with dozens of other mothers, it really resonated with me and comforted me. When I had my last baby, when my eldest was 11, she bought it in a charity shop and read it herself to prepare to be a big sister. She loved it too. Purves has such a warm way of writing that I felt supported in my fumblings as I tried to be a good enough mother. 26 years since kick off now and I am still trying.
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Of all the books on parenting I read when I was pregnant with my first child, this was far and away the most realistic, the most useful and the most entertaining to read. Full of useful tips on real-life parenting - not the textbook claptrap of "perfect mother" books. I would recommend this book to any new parents, old parents, grandparents, carers, next-door-neighbours... anyone who has dealings with babies, toddlers and young children. An essential weapon in the parental armoury!
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I borrowed this book from the library and renewed it so many times that I had to buy it in the end. It kept me amused during my pregnancy and reassured during the first year of my baby's life. Now after number 2 child, I enjoy reading it again and smiling knowingly at all the stages of new parenthood. It doesn't preach, just dishes out good sensible advice in bite sized sections. Libby Purves accepts every baby and mother is different and offers several solutions to the age old challenges of trying to survive the first year of motherhood. Well worth the money.
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You already know how to look after your baby, and Libby Purves has written the only baby-care book I know of that acknowledges this and encourages mothers - and fathers - to rely on their common sense, supplemented with a range of crafty tips that will reduce your stress levels by 100%. Other 'baby manuals', however sympathetic their tone seems, manage to leave parents with a sense of guilt and inadequacy because they aren't keeping the humidity in the baby's room at the right level, or measuring the temperature of baby's milk correctly.
This book is a great antidote to the prevailing tendency to make a science out of everything, even the most natural things, like raising children. Libby Purves has faith in people. As you read her book, your faith in yourself comes flooding back.
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This book is terribly dated. I found it fascinating that she had to tie the baby's carrycot into the car with string when she wanted to take it out. It makes me bless the invention of the car seat. Having said that it is very funny about a subject which can be hideously serious at a time when you need reassurances and not lists of why you have done it wrong again! I found myself identifying with her in all sorts of ways and it was very refreshing to find that I was actually doing just fine thank you very much.
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