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A genuinely helpful book
on 4 November 2016
I found my copy when I was in a charity shop, and then more recently bought a copy for a friend and a copy for my mum via amazon. I can understand why Oprah Winfrey wanted to share this book with the world.
I have read numerous self-development books over the years, sometimes reluctantly, and this one is one of the clearest and most accessible. Gray breaks down into an easy to understand format what other authors of similar material can present in more ambiguous ways.
One large part of the book that I remember most clearly is that of the Love Tanks. We each need to fill each Love Tank, and these are all filled in different ways. If you are someone who thinks that you should be happy because you have a lovely partner, but also feel guilty because you don’t feel as happy as you would expect, then it’s because you are neglecting other Love Tanks besides the one that gets filled by having an intimate relationship. There are 10 Love Tanks that we need to top up regularly, and having a partner will only fill one, but not the other 9.
The first Love Tank is filled by our connecting regularly to a higher source. I am not religious in any way, shape or form, but even I recognise that there is something larger than me at work in the universe. Whatever you call it, be it God, Great Spirit, Grace (or anything else not necessarily beginning with 'G'), there is definitely value in accessing this energy on a regular basis. John Gray, being an American and writing for a predominantly American readership, uses the word God, and he explains that it's because that word has power for him, but he in no way expects his readers to stick with the same. You can simply exchange the word God with whatever works for you.
It was after reading John Gray's book and applying some of what I learned from it, that my life literally turned itself around. Just this spring 2016, I went from being homeless, ill and overwhelmed with stress, to quickly and smoothly being offered, yes offered, a lovely home all to myself that I don't have to pay for, with all the support that I need for my physical and emotional health. I took only very minimal action to allow this to happen. Within weeks of reading this book, working on filling only one Love Tank, and doing a very few simple writing exercises, I started experiencing small miracles regularly, and I still do now. People are constantly helping me, giving me useful information, services and items all for free. All I did was connect with a higher source, and ‘pray’ for help, as well as feel gratitude for whatever I did have. I did not expect it to work, but work it did. I have never had such a consistently smooth "run of good luck" my whole life before now. Maybe it's coincidence, but I believe it is because I have started to fill the first Love Tank. I am quite deaf now, so filling my other Love Tanks will be a challenge, but if this is what it’s like after working a short time on filling just the first one, then only the Great Spirit knows what my future could be like if I manage to fill the others.
There is much more to this book than Love Tanks as well, including dealing with blocks. There are exercises, all very doable, that will help you heal your past.
Honestly, you really cannot know whether this book is helpful or not until you read it and give it a chance. You literally have nothing to lose but a tiny amount of money, and very potentially could gain the life you want too. Just remember that you actually have to do the exercises, and not just read the book.